- Subjects
- Published
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Avon, Mass. :
Adams Media
[2004]
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xiv, 287 pages ; 23 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes computer network resources and index.
- ISBN
- 9781580629782
- Introduction
- Chapter 1. The Basics of Discipline
- Positive versus Negative Discipline
- How Discipline Affects Your Relationship
- Instructional versus Correctional Responses
- Understanding Instruction
- Giving Correction
- Principles of Correction
- Chapter 2. The Difficulty of Disciplining
- Your Attitude Matters
- Guidance for the Future
- Risking Resentment
- Pressure to Be Perfect
- Keeping Priorities in Order
- Chapter 3. The Limits of Parental Control
- Parental Influence in Perspective
- Cooperation Required
- To Change Your Child, Change Yourself
- Getting out of Negative Cycles
- Building Blocks of Cooperation
- Attention Disorders
- Discipline Through Medication
- Chapter 4. The Principle of Consent
- Working for Consent
- Acknowledging Consent
- Seeing the Big Picture
- Compromising to Get Consent
- Handling Frustration
- The Power of Choice
- Chapter 5. Communicating with Courtesy
- Why Courtesy Matters
- The Power of Discourtesy
- The Discipline of Apologizing
- The Discipline of Forgiveness
- Communicating the Wrong Message
- Adjusting for Growth Cycles
- Chapter 6. Dealing with Differences
- Multiple Children, Multiple Personalities
- Not a Chip off the Old Block
- Two Parents, Two Views
- Giving Acceptance versus Making Demands
- Different Genders
- The Danger of "Good" and "Bad"
- Chapter 7. Parental Authority
- Why It's Important
- The Dangers of Not Having Authority
- Establishing Parental Authority
- Authority That's Positive
- Authority Styles
- Ways You Communicate Authority
- Chapter 8. Family Rules
- Stemming from Worry
- The Importance of Rules
- A Form of Security
- Two Kinds of Rules
- Being Consistent
- Being Inconsistent
- The Power of Prohibition
- Outside Influences
- Chapter 9. Raising Responsible Children
- Two Elements
- Teaching Responsible Behavior
- Teaching Responsibility
- Teaching Two-Step Thinking
- Readiness for Responsibility
- The Choice/Consequence Connection
- Casting off Responsibility
- Counting Systems
- Earning Systems
- Chapter 10. Guidance: The First Factor
- Good Parents Never Shut Up
- The Power of Persuasion
- Partnering with Your Child
- Giving Feedback about Performance
- Sharing about Yourself
- The Power of a Good Talking-To
- Chapter 11. Supervision: The Second Factor
- Good Parents Never Give Up
- The Power of Pursuit
- The Power of Surveillance
- Home Alone
- The Messy Room
- Resisting Schoolwork
- Chapter 12. Punishment: The Third Factor
- Good Parents Never Back Off
- The Power of Enforcement
- The Limits of Punishment
- External and Natural Consequences
- Isolation as Punishment
- Deprivation as Punishment
- Reparation as Punishment
- The Negative Attention Trap
- Chapter 13. Exchange Points: The Fourth Factor
- Good Parents Get as Well as Give
- The Power of Mutuality
- Someone You Can Enjoy Living With
- Predictable Behaviors in Parents
- Taking Back the Initiative
- Being Part of the Family
- Chapter 14. The Only Child
- Special Concerns
- Parental Peer Pressure
- Emotional Enmeshment
- The Tyranny of Pleasing
- The Expectation for Return
- Unrealistic Standards of Performance
- Falling Away in Adolescence
- Chapter 15. Discipline Changes with Age
- Early Childhood (Up to Age 3)
- Late Childhood (Ages 4-8)
- Transition into Adolescence (Ages 9-10)
- Early and Midadolescence (Ages 9-15)
- Late Adolescence (Ages 15-18)
- Trial Independence (Ages 18-23)
- Once a Parent, Always a Parent
- Chapter 16. Disciplining the Teenager
- The Hard "Half" of Parenting
- Parenting the Teenager
- The Problem of Hurry-Up Growth
- Readjusting Expectations
- The Four Stages of Adolescence
- Substance Abuse
- The Freedom Contract
- Chapter 17. Early Adolescence (Ages 9-13)
- Signs of Early Adolescence
- Insecurity and Low Self-Esteem
- Separation from Childhood
- The Negative Attitude
- Rebellion
- Early Experimentation
- Chapter 18. Midadolescence (Ages 13-15)
- Your Adolescent's Worldview
- Strains on the Relationship
- The Shell of Self-Centeredness
- Avoiding Responsibility
- The Battle Against Authority
- Communicating with Your Teen
- The Power of Peers
- Adolescent Lies
- Chapter 19. Late Adolescence (Ages 15-18)
- The Learning Curve of High School
- Driving a Car
- Holding a Part-Time Job
- The Teen Social Scene
- The Culture of Sex
- Sexual Gaming
- Romantic Relationships
- Sex as a Rite of Passage
- What to Say about Having Sex
- Preparing for Independence
- Trial Independence (Ages 18-23)
- Chapter 20. Constructive Conflict
- Why Conflict Is Necessary
- The Nature of Conflict
- The Dance of Conflict
- Communication in Conflict
- Tactics to Avoid
- Rules for Family Conflict
- Appendix A. Helpful Web Sites
- Appendix B. Additional Resources
- Index