- Subjects
- Published
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New York, NY :
McGraw-Hill
2001.
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xvi, 284 p. : ill. ; 23 cm
- ISBN
- 9780071385640
- Introduction
- Chapter 1. The Disease to Please Triangle: The Price of Nice
- Part 1. People-Pleasing Mindsets
- Chapter 2. Toxic Thoughts
- Chapter 3. It's Okay Not to Be Nice
- Chapter 4. Putting Others First
- Chapter 5. There's More to You Than How Much You Do
- Chapter 6. Nice People Can Say "No"
- Part 2. People-Pleasing Habits
- Chapter 7. Learning to Please: Approval Addiction
- Chapter 8. Why Can't You Get Your Parents' Approval?
- Chapter 9. Love at All Costs
- Chapter 10. Romantic Addiction
- Part 3. People-Pleasing Feelings
- Chapter 11. Once More,Without Feelings
- Chapter 12. The Fear of Anger
- Chapter 13. Words Can Really Hurt You
- Chapter 14. How Far Would You Go to Avoid a Confrontation?
- Chapter 15. Small Steps, Big Changes
- The 21-Day Action Plan for Curing the Disease to Please
- A User's Guide to the 21-Day Action Plan
- Day 1. Don't Say "Yes"When You Want to Say "No"
- Day 2. The Broken Record Technique
- Day 3. The Counteroffer
- Day 4. What to Say If You Want to Say "No": The Sandwich Technique
- Day 5. The Reverse Sandwich Technique
- Day 6. Rewriting the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing
- Day 7. Rewriting the Seven Deadly Shoulds
- Day 8. Taking Care of You
- Day 9. Talking Yourself Out of Approval Addiction
- Day 10. To Do or Not to Do, That Is the Question
- Day 11. Tag, You're It
- Day 12. It's Okay Not to Be Nice
- Day 13. The Anger Scale
- Day 14. The Relaxation Breath
- Day 15. Anger-Up
- Day 16. Anger-Down
- Day 17. TIME OUT
- Day 18. Stress Inoculation
- Day 19. Solve a Problem with a Friend, Not for a Friend
- Day 20. Correcting Faulty Assumptions
- Day 21. Celebrate Your Cure
- Epilogue: Some Final Thoughts