I'd listen to my parents if they'd just shut up What to say and not say when parenting teens

Adolescents today are more likely to challenge their parents' authority because parents are less punitive with their children than in generations past. While most parents wouldn't want a return to harsh punishment or the potential of teaching children by aggressive example, they can't tolerate the sassiness of their teens. Child psychologist Wolf (Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall?, 1991) offers a broad perspective on adolescence and parenting in the digital age. He begins with an overview of child development and human psychology as it applies to adults and children, and how we all challenge what we consider to be impositions. He captures the day-to-day tensions between parents and teens in amusing and infuriating vignettes and suggests how to respond to charges that It's not fair and declarations that I hate you. Parents may balk at the notion of scripted responses but will appreciate the insights into the stresses of modern adolescence, from coping with divorce to adapting to social media and technology.--Bush, Vanessa Copyright 2010 Booklist

Clinical psychologist Wolfe has an uncanny ear for kidspeak. Author of Mom, Jason's Breathing on Me and Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall?, he reveals, with warm humor, much professional experience, and a great deal of patience, what kids really mean in their offhand, cajoling, vituperative or even monosyllabic communications with their folks. An additional boon to parents is Wolfe's ability to translate quite handily parental comments and requests into what tweens and teens infer, thus helping moms and dads fully comprehend what information is actually exchanged. Wolfe notes a hallmark of adolescence is that teens feel they can no longer be little children but don't yet have the skills to be independent, so high emotions and unpredictable behavior are to be expected. His fly-on-the-wall observations and word-for-word responses will facilitate positive give-and-take and help parents steer clear of what doesn't work in multiple situations, including school; family interaction; control and rules (the issue isn't power, it's accountability); character development; sex, drugs, alcohol and risk-taking; electronics; and privacy. Wolfe lets readers know how and why it's important to pick their battles, stick to "no," and get kids to do what they don't want but need to do, eventually building a strong parent-teen relationship. Strong competition to Faber and Mazlish's classic How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, this entertaining book is full of understanding, advice, and support. (Nov.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.