Becoming Jewish The challenges, rewards, and paths to conversion

Steven Carr Reuben

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Published
Lanham, Md. : Rowman & Littlefield [2011]
Language
English
Main Author
Steven Carr Reuben (-)
Other Authors
Jennifer S. Hanin, 1964- (-)
Item Description
Includes index.
Physical Description
xvi, 256 pages ; 24 cm
ISBN
9781442208483
  • Foreword
  • Acknowledgments
  • Introduction: The Inspiration for Becoming Jewish
  • 1. Finding New Meaning
  • Making the Transition
  • What Defines a Jew?
  • Why Is Culture So Important?
  • Why Convert?
  • What Is Involved?
  • Choosing a Hebrew Name
  • Getting Started
  • Rabbi Shopping
  • Finding Community Online
  • The Right Rabbi for You
  • Jewish Denominations
  • Do You Need to Learn Hebrew?
  • Will Your Children Need to Convert?
  • Using This Book
  • 2. Belonging vs. Believing
  • Belief-Based Religion
  • Belonging-Based Religion
  • Will Jews Accept You as a Convert?
  • Will Family and Friends Accept You?
  • What Does "Religious" Mean?
  • Labels Belong on Products
  • More Than a Religion
  • Your Jewish Inheritance Room
  • Developing Your Own Jewish Customs
  • 3. Telling Family and Friends
  • Topics Considered Taboo
  • Be Honest
  • Find a Neutral Setting
  • Gaining Support
  • Keeping Past Ties
  • Do It for You
  • More Than You Bargained For
  • Those Awkward Moments
  • Start Living It
  • 4. Hitting the Books
  • Choosing Your Path
  • Seeing with 4 Jewish Set of Eyes
  • TMI!
  • Just Do It
  • 5. Learning an Ancient Language
  • Really? Is Hebrew Required?
  • Language of the Torah
  • Curl Up with the Dead Sea Scrolls
  • Help!
  • But It Looks So Different
  • Your Secret Decoder Ring
  • Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained
  • Worth the Effort
  • 6. Honoring Shabbat
  • Rock Star Status
  • Making Shabbat Yours
  • The Three Traditional Shabbat Rituals
  • A Blessing for Children
  • Do-It-YourselfS/iflbbflf
  • Weekly Farewell Pary
  • 7. Holidays and Holy Days
  • Early or Late?
  • More Holidays Than You Can Shake a Lulav At
  • Make Your Sukkah Shine
  • The Miracle of Religious Freedom
  • The Three-Hour Meal
  • The "Ten-Minute" Holiday
  • 8. Facing the Bet Din
  • Behind the Bet Din
  • Use "We" Terms
  • Don't Sweat It
  • Assessing Your Intent
  • Cramming Sold Separately
  • 9. Mikvah and More
  • The Mikvah
  • Modesty Takes a Backseat
  • Conversion Ceremony
  • Circumcision
  • Hatafat Dam Brit
  • BritMilah
  • Brit Milah for Newborns
  • Calming Conversion Jitters
  • 10. Tradition
  • Why Tradition Matters
  • More Than a Nursery
  • BritMilah
  • Coming-of-Age
  • Tying the Knot
  • R.I.P.
  • Sacred Rituals and Customs
  • Knowing What's Important
  • Cornerstones of Judaism
  • Making It Work
  • 11. Living Single
  • The Many Meanings of "Family"
  • Finding Your Own "Jewish Mother"
  • Don't Amputate Your Past
  • 12. All This for a Wedding?
  • Turning Two into One
  • More Than Art
  • Four Poles and Some Fabric
  • Walking in Circles
  • Getting to "I Do"
  • Sheva Berachot (Seven Blessings)
  • The Plain Gold Band
  • The Groom Wore Steel-Toed Shoes
  • Getting a Get
  • 13. Raising Jewish Kids
  • Hang On! Help Is On Its Way
  • Q&A
  • Live It Yourself
  • 14. Adult B'nai Mitzvah and Beyond
  • Rite of Passage
  • Facing YourTears
  • What Can You Expect?
  • Adult B'nai Mitzvah Syllabus-Conservative
  • What Else Can You Learn?
  • Virtual Learning
  • 15. Is Madonna Jewish?
  • Understanding the Roots
  • What Is Kabbalah?
  • The Five Layers
  • Kabbalah Is Jewish
  • Kabbalah Is Not Judaism
  • Trying Pop Kabbalah
  • Is Kabbalah for You?
  • 16. Do They Hate You Too?
  • Centuries of Jew Hating
  • Eyes Wide Open
  • Should You Be Concerned?
  • Is There a Bull's-Eye On Your Back?
  • Fertile Ground for Antisemites
  • How to Avoid Haters
  • What Can You Do About It?
  • Reporting Hate Crimes and Beyond
  • You're Not Alone
  • A Wave of Holocaust Denial
  • Finding the Jewish Activist in You
  • Show Your Chutzpah
  • 17. Everyone Matters
  • The Gloved One
  • Why So Many Lawyers?
  • Making It Your Own
  • 18. Children of Israel
  • It Just Feels Different
  • Bill Said It Best
  • Peace or Pipe Dream?
  • Act for Israel
  • All Corners of the Globe
  • Am Yisrael Chai!
  • Appendix 1. Thirty-Nine Types of Work Forbidden on Shabbat
  • Appendix 2. Sample Conversion Courses
  • Glossary
  • Resources
  • Index
Review by Booklist Review

Converting to Judaism is a long, involved process. This guide by a Reconstructionist rabbi and a freelance writer who converted is a welcome resource. The authors explain such details as finding the right denomination, choosing a rabbi, selecting a Hebrew name, and the need to learn Hebrew. They also discuss Jewish culture and beliefs, holidays, and traditions. Chapters on telling family and friends about the decision to convert, raising Jewish children, kabbalah, anti-Semitism, and Israel help those converting understand important issues. There is also more doctrinaire information about facing the Bet Din (rabbinic court) and going to the mikvah (ritual bath). Written in a casual, friendly style with good humor and warmth, this accessible guide will help anyone considering conversion to Judaism.--Bibel, Barbara Copyright 2010 Booklist

From Booklist, Copyright (c) American Library Association. Used with permission.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Conversion to Judaism usually occurs when a non-Jewish person falls in love with a Jew and the two determine that a common religious faith will make for a happier marriage. Co-author Hanin took a different route. She was already married to a Jew and was the mother of three-year old twins when she became friendly with a Jewish woman, attended her synagogue, and found there a sense of warmth that led to her conversion. Deciding to write about her experience, Hanin met Reuben, a Reconstructionist rabbi, who shared her views. The result of their collaboration is this wise and edifying guidebook to the process by which someone chooses to become a Jew. The authors spell out not only the steps to be taken, but also provide a wealth of information about Jewish traditions, practices, and customs. Their topics include: choosing a rabbi and a Jewish denomination; dealing with family and friends; observing the holidays; facing the religious court (Bet Din); raising children; anti-Semitism; and more. This second aspect of the presentation is so enlightening that all readers -- non-Jews and Jews, who can learn some unfamiliar aspects of their own religion - will find the book highly instructive. (Oct.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.


Review by Library Journal Review

There is a long-standing tradition that, given the oppression that Jews have often faced, rabbis should make every effort to discourage would-be converts. Reuben (senior rabbi, Kehillat Israel Reconstructionist Congregation) and freelance writer Hanin, a convert to Judaism, by contrast, explain to the curious what conversion is apt to be like and address questions and issues that are likely to arise (Hebrew, Shabbat, kosher, Kabbalah, Israel, differing denominations). They instruct the reader on Judaism's this-world focus and its status as a religion that emphasizes belonging over belief and the value of every person. VERDICT Short chapters and a simple style make this an excellent choice for interested readers and perhaps the first book any rabbi ought to hand a would-be convert. With a foreword by actor and comedian Bob Saget. (c) Copyright 2011. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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