Smile at strangers And other lessons in the art of living fearlessly

Susan Schorn

Book - 2013

Describes how the author freed herself from crippling fear through taking up karate and used her newfound empowerment to take charge with her husband, her boss, and her daughter's bossy Girl Scout troop leader.

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Published
Boston : Houghton Mifflin Harcourt 2013.
Language
English
Main Author
Susan Schorn (-)
Physical Description
ix, 292 pages ; 22 cm
ISBN
9780547774336
  • Fall down seven times, get up eight
  • If you want to feel safe, be prepared to feel uncomfortable
  • Smile at strangers
  • Paradise doesn't count if it's compulsory
  • You're doing it all wrong. And that's perfect
  • To fight fear, you must also fight ignorance. And occasionally, argumentative jerks
  • Don't be afraid of the dark - grab darkness by the throat, kick its ass, push it down the stairs, and laugh at its haircut
  • Push yourself past your limits; then let your friends push you further
  • We are connected by the distance between us
  • What you're good at is less important than what you're good for
  • Remain centered, no matter how many building permits you have to obtain
  • Everybody wants to have adventures. Whether they know it or not
  • Sometimes the only way forward is to go back and start over
  • Once a place becomes part of you, you can leave it without regret
  • Parenthood is the most terrifying ordeal you will ever undergo. Enjoy it
  • See yourself clearly, and you won't dread the scrutiny of others
  • A warrior cultivates the virtues of loyalty, courage, and discretion. Along with some light typing and filing
  • Self-criticism is easy. Self-improvement is hard. You're here for the hard stuff
  • Survival is the bravest fight, and the most beautiful victory
  • Believe it or not, you are more than equal to the challenges you face
  • Behind each triumph are new peaks to be conquered
  • Japanese terms
  • Martial arts styles mentioned
  • Acknowledgments
Review by Booklist Review

This curious book part personal journey, part karate tutorial explores how Schorn changed her approach to life through the study of karate. She first took up karate because she felt both powerless and fearful in her life. Through her experience at a women's-only karate school, she finds personal empowerment and a strong and supportive community. Schorn writes about how she is able to apply the lessons she learns in the dojo to her daily life, thus enabling her to negotiate more successfully with her husband and to help establish boundaries in her career and at home. Yet Schorn's transformation comes slowly; this is not a self-help book that delivers easy answers. Instead, in following Schorn as she pursues her two black belts, the book quickly makes apparent that transformative change comes with extensive work and no small bit of pain but brings with it the ultimate satisfaction of finding inner strength.--Gaus, Eve Copyright 2010 Booklist

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Schorn lived a life of anxiety and fear until age 30, when she began training at the Austin, Tex., Sun Dragon dojo in Kyokushin, a "full-contact" form of karate. While detailing her journey from white belt to double black belt, she candidly examines the fear of harassment that many women deal with on a daily basis, and she dismisses frequently proffered advice that regards women as "feeble-minded children" and blames victims for supposedly failing to exercise caution. In its place, Schorn provides a slew of strategies for managing tense situations-she encourages women to make purposeful eye contact and get comfortable with saying "no," and she runs through de-escalation and intervention tactics (as well as actual Kyokushin combat techniques). Schorn credits the philosophy and discipline of her martial art with helping her cope with everything from her sister's cancer diagnosis, a particularly taxing home renovation, and parenting unruly children. Considering the gravity of the topics at hand, Schorn manages a lot of levity-she describes the melee in which she earned her first black belt as "like getting married, except you have to fight all the bridesmaids." The tale of her journey to empowerment is an engrossing and inspirational read. Agent: Brettne Bloom, Kneerim, Williams and Bloom. (May 28) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

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Review by Library Journal Review

Schorn, who holds black belts in Kyokushin and Seido karate, addresses women who are tired of being afraid. She uses kowas (Japanese proverbs) as chapter headings that dispense advice, e.g., "Fall down seven times, get up eight." A substantial portion of her book is devoted to self-defense, but she also doles out tips for navigating family issues and taking control of one's career. VERDICT Only for those with a keen interest in karate. (c) Copyright 2013. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

One woman's journey to overcome fear through martial arts. Two-time black belt Schorn didn't always feel confident in her surroundings. In fact, before she discovered karate, she was often immobilized by either fear or anger. "I was angry at the way fear constrained my life; angry at the world for failing to obviate my fear," she writes. "I was angry that society seemed to think women should just get used to seeing themselves as victims. I was angry that a lot of women seemed to agree." When a colleague invited her to an all-female dojo, Schorn was able to vent her frustration and overcome her fears while "hitting things and yelling." Using karate as the background, the author shows readers how she overcame her anxieties and demonstrates how they can overcome their own fears: of the dark, of saying "no," of feeling like a victim. Schorn couples detailed descriptions of Kyokushin karate moves with statements that will build women's confidence and empower them to resist and reject the common perception that they are weaker and more vulnerable than men. She also discusses how looking down instead of at someone shows passivity and how finding one's center works in both karate and life. Some of the occasionally clichd but often true axioms include, "parenthood is the most terrifying ordeal you will ever undergo, enjoy it," and "push yourself past your limits; then let your friends push you further." Although karate may not be the right discipline for some people, Schorn's experiences encourage women to stand up and fight for what they believe in, despite the odds, and to smile and enjoy the process while doing so. Useful, perceptive advice on life found through the practice of karate.]] Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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