Peaceful parent, happy kids How to stop yelling and start connecting
Book - 2012
Offers practical, easy-to-apply ideas to help parents regulate themselves and their own emotions in order to foster a better connection with their children to help them learn emotional intelligence, empathy, and responsibility.
- Subjects
- Published
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New York, NY :
Perigee Book
2012.
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xxvii, 274 p. ; 21 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references and index.
- ISBN
- 9780399160288
- Foreword
- Introduction: Secrets of Peaceful Parents
- Part 1. Regulating Yourself
- 1. Peaceful Parents Raise Happy Kids
- Your Number One Responsibility as a Parent
- Breaking the Cycle: Healing Your Own Wounds
- How to Manage Your Anger
- How to Stop Yelling at Your Child
- When Your Child Melts Down: How to Keep Your Cool
- You Can Nurture Yourself While Raising Your Child
- Ten Rules to Raise Terrific Kids
- Part 2. Fostering Connection
- 2. The Essential Ingredient for Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids
- Why Connection Is the Secret to Happy Parenting
- Connection as Your Child Grows
- Babies (0-13 Months): Wiring the Brain
- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Building Secure Attachment
- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Developing Independence
- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Foundation for the Teen Years
- Connection Basics
- How to Connect More Deeply with Your Child
- How Do You Know When Your Relationship with Your Child Needs Work?
- Connecting with a Difficult Child
- Action Guides
- Your Child's Emotional Bank Account
- What's So Special About Special Time?
- Daily Habits to Strengthen and Sweeten Your Relationship with Your Child
- Use Connection to Get Your Child Out the Door In the Morning
- Use Connection to make Bedtime Easier
- Ten Ways to Become a Brilliant Listener
- But How Do I Get My Child to Listen to Me?!
- When Your Child Just Shuts Down
- When You and Your Child Are Stuck in Negativity
- Part 3. Coaching, not Controlling
- 3. Raising a Child Who Can Manage Himself: Emotion Coaching
- Why Emotion-Coach?
- Emotional Intelligence as Your Child Grows
- Babies (0-13 Months): A Bedrock of Trust
- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Unconditional Love
- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Empathy
- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Emotional Self-Awareness
- Emotion Coaching Basics
- How Children Develop Emotional Intelligence
- Empathy, the Foundation of EQ
- Your Child's Emotional Backpack
- Understanding Anger
- Meeting Your Child's Deepest Needs
- EQ Coaching with a Difficult Child
- Action Guides
- Seven Steps to Nurture Emotional Intelligence in Your Child
- Emotion-Coaching Your Child Through a Meltdown
- When Your Child Acts Out but Can't Cry: Building Safety
- Playing with Your Child: Games for Emotional Intelligence
- Additional Resources: Scripts for Sibling Conflicts
- 4. Raising a Child Who Wants to Behave: Dare Not to Discipline
- The Dirty Little Secret About Discipline and Punishment
- Guidance as Your Child Grows
- Babies (0-13 Months): Empathic Redirection
- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Sidestepping Power Struggles
- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Learning Self-Management
- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Developing Positive Habits
- Setting Limits with Empathy: The Basics
- The Sweet Spot Between Strict and Permissive
- Should You Spank Your Child?
- Is Yelling the New Spanking?
- Transform Your Time-Outs to Time-Ins
- The Truth About Consequences
- Does Positive Parenting Work with a Difficult Child?
- Action Guides
- How to Set Empathic Limits
- How to Help Kids Who Test the Limits
- Wean Yourself Off Consequences: Twelve Terrific Alternatives
- How to Intervene in the Heat of the Moment
- Empowering Kids to Make Amends with the Three Rs: Reflection, Repair, and Responsibility
- Preventive Maintenance
- What If Your Child Crosses the Line?
- Additional Resources: Scripts
- 5. Raising a Child Who Achieves with Joy and Self-Esteem: Mastery Coaching
- What Is Mastery Coaching?
- Building Mastery as Your Child Grows
- Babies (0-13 Months): The Budding Scientist
- Toddlers (13-36 Months): Do It Myself: Developing Response-Ability
- Preschoolers (3-5 Years): Self-Mastery Through Problem Solving
- Elementary Schoolers (6-9 Years): Exploring Passions
- Mastery Basics
- Encouraging Mastery
- How Kids Develop Resilence
- Giving Constructive Feedback
- How to Avoid Helicopter Parenting
- What If You Have a Child Who Doesn't Develop Mastery Naturally?
- Action Guides
- Create a No-Blame Household
- Developing Responsibility
- Developing Good Judgment
- Homework Without Tears
- Trust Your Child-and Mother Nature
- Afterword
- When to Seek Professional Help
- The Future Is in Your Hands
- Acknowledgments
- Further Reading
- Notes
- Index