Raising kids to thrive Balancing love with expectations and protection with trust
Book - 2015
Offering essential tips on fostering resilience, this book helps parents understand how they can balance unconditional love and still set high expectations for their children, as well as recognize when to set boundaries and when to get out of kids' ways so they can learn lessons firsthand. The authors offer parents ways to understand why helicopter or "tiger" parenting undermines successful development, be a stable beacon their children will turn to for guidance and self measurement, build the kind of relationship they hope to have with their child, and reduce their children's anxiety (and their own!) as they venture out into the world of adulthood.
- Subjects
- Published
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Elk Grove Village, IL :
American Academy of Pediatrics
[2015]
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Other Authors
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- Physical Description
- xxiv, 275 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references and index.
- ISBN
- 9781581108675
- Acknowledgments
- Preface
- Introduction
- Part 1. Unconditional Love Versus High Expectations
- Overview
- What You Will Learn
- Chapter 1. The Protective Force of Parental Love
- Chapter 2. Why Does Love Sometimes Feel Like a One-way Street?
- Chapter 3. Can We Be Too Connected to Our Children?
- Chapter 4. Setting High Expectations for Success and Morality
- Chapter 5. High Expectations Gone Awry: The Problem With Focusing Mainly on Academic Performance
- Chapter 6. Setting Expectations That Promote Success
- Chapter 7. Setting Clear Expectations About Risky Behaviors
- Moments for Personal Reflection or Serious Discussion
- Part 2. Protection Versus Learning From Life's Lessons
- Overview
- What You Will Learn
- Chapter 8. Protection Versus Preparation
- Chapter 9. The Upside of Failure
- Chapter 10. Navigational Strategies
- Chapter 11. Preparing Your Child for a Stressful World
- Chapter 12. Loving Boundaries
- Chapter 13. Effective Monitoring
- Chapter 14. Parenting Toward Lifelong Interdependence
- Moments for Personal Reflection or Serious Discussion
- Part 3. The Voice of Youth
- Overview
- Chapter 15. Eliciting the Youth Perspective
- Chapter 16. The Youth Perspective: Love Versus Expectations
- Chapter 17. The Youth Perspective: Protection Versus Trust
- Part 4. Rebooting: Moving Toward the Relationship You Hope to Have
- Overview
- Chapter 18. Getting Started: Laying the Groundwork for Productive Communication
- Chapter 19. Creating the Space for Change
- Chapter 20. Communication 101: Listening and Talking
- Chapter 21. Communication 201: It's More Than What You Say
- Chapter 22. Guiding Our Kids to Own Their Solutions
- Chapter 23. A Chapter for Young People: First Steps Toward a Better Relationship With Your Parents
- Parting Thoughts
- Index