Highly sensitive people In an insensitive world : how to create a happy life
Book - 2016
Written for highly sensitive people, this book explains the characterisitcs of being highly sensitive and how to overcome common difficulties, such as low self-esteem and the exhausting effects of socialising.
- Subjects
- Published
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London ; Philadelphia :
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
2016.
- Language
- English
Danish - Main Author
- Physical Description
- 160 pages ; 20 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references (pages 153-155).
- ISBN
- 9781785920660
- Preface
- Introduction
- 1. The Characteristics of Being Highly Sensitive
- Two types within the same species
- We receive more inputs and think deeply about them
- Sensitive to sensory inputs
- Easily affected by the moods of other people
- Conscientious
- A rich inner life
- A natural spiritual curiosity
- A different strategy
- Slow and judicious
- Sensation-seeking sensitive people
- Introvert or extrovert
- Pros and cons of typology
- 2. High Standards and Low Self-Esteem
- Personal maxims
- High standards
- Self-esteem or self-confidence
- Why highly sensitive people often lack faith in their own worth
- How low self-esteem and high standards maintain each other
- When lowering your standards proves difficult
- The fear of abandonment
- Seize the opportunity
- 3. How to Organise Your Life According to Your Type
- Creating space
- Setting boundaries
- When guests linger
- When you have to say no to something you like
- Good advice and ideas for dealing with being overwhelmed
- Some advice about sleep
- The beneficial effects of water, exercise and physical contact
- Expressing yourself prevents over-stimulation
- When you are stimulated from within
- Telling other people about your sensitivity
- 4. How to Benefit from Your Ability to Relate to Others and Be Present
- Highly sensitive people prefer high-quality interactions
- Take breaks
- Make sure you are part of a dialogue rather than a monologue
- Figure out what kind of responses you want to give or receive
- How to deepen a conversation - and lighten it again
- Interacting on four levels
- 5. How to Face Anger: Your Own and Others'
- Highly sensitive people have a different strategy when dealing with anger
- Make use of your abilities to empathise and reflect
- When it is unwise to be empathic when facing anger
- When you are not letting others know what you dislike
- When anger protects us from powerlessness and grief
- Avoid moralising
- From 'should' to 'wish' - from anger to sorrow
- 6. Guilt and Shame
- Relevant guilt
- Excessive guilt feelings
- Working with guilt feelings
- Feelings of shame
- If you are ashamed of your sensitivity
- 7. Situations in Life
- Difficulties in relationships
- To be a highly sensitive parent
- 8. Mental Health Problems
- Vulnerability to anxiety and depression
- Exhaustion and depression
- Feelings and thoughts are closely related - the cognitive model
- Sometimes it is wise to prepare for the worst
- The highly sensitive trait may look like anxiety disorder to outsiders
- Other problems may contribute to a sensitized nervous system
- 9. Developing and Growing
- Highly sensitive people and psychotherapy
- Loving yourself - supporting yourself
- Being compassionate towards yourself
- Reconciliation
- The joy of becoming yourself
- 10. Researching the Highly Sensitive Trait
- Strong reactions to sensory inputs
- A new articulation
- Nature and nurture
- Test results
- Epilogue: A Gift for the Highly Sensitive
- Ideas For Highly Sensitive People
- Inspiring activities
- Outgoing activities
- Activities for when you are over-stimulated
- Test Yourself: How Sensitive are you?
- Bibliography
- Acknowledgements
- About the Author and Translator