Like me or not Overcoming approval addiction

While varied in approach, these two books similarly guide readers toward achieving happiness and lasting change. In The Courage To Be Disliked, Kishimi (consultant, Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology; The Science of Living) and professional writer Koga apply the theories of Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler to a series of dialogs between a philosopher and a young man who is looking for direction in life and freedom from earlier trauma. Readers are challenged to discard their past and embrace the present, as the authors take on questions and arguments about moving forward in an Adlerian style. Owens (founder & executive director, Link of Cullman County ministry) applies a more practical than philosophical method in Like Me or Not, exploring how our need for approval can become another form of addiction, similar to alcoholism or substance abuse. The author uses many of the tenets of 12-step programs to release readers from the bondage of approval addiction, and it works. She not only brings into play the dynamics of recovery programs but also strengthens her assertions with biblical passages and stories of how single individuals can make a difference. VERDICT For those seeking a discourse that helps explain who they are in the world, Kishimi and Koga provide an illuminating conversation. For others who have an -inkling of what God wants them to become, Owens fills the bill. © Copyright 2018. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.