Passing A memoir of love and death

Novelist and former Simon & Schuster editor-in-chief Korda (Clouds of Glory) delivers a heartfelt look at his wife, Margaret, who was diagnosed with brain cancer a year before she died at age 79. This intimate memoir is both a tribute to their 45-year marriage--during which they had been "each other's lover, companion, and best friend"--and an account of how looking "after someone who is dying gradually fills one's life to the exclusion of everything else" with "no manual that tells you what to do, what to expect, what to tell the person who's dying." Korda's account of Margaret's medical treatments--surgery, radiation, and rehabilitation--is made all the more striking as he details her lifetime of physical fitness, including riding horses competitively (and winning five national championships). He sensitively describes how Margaret's "present was becoming unbearable at a quickening rate" though he concludes that in the end her eyes showed not resignation but "perhaps even gratitude" that "the struggle was coming to an end." Lovingly told, Korda's memoir movingly captures the complexities of dealing with the death of a loved one. (Oct.)

When a loved one is diagnosed with cancer or other terminal illness, every frightened caregiver needs a way to understanding of the human side of fighting an illness and eventually surrendering to circumstances beyond one's control. This audiobook fulfills that essential mission. Korda courageously shares the story of his beloved wife, Margaret, and her battle with cancer. After losing strength in her right hand as well as losing her grasp of certain words and pronunciations, Margaret was diagnosed with a brain tumor. More tumors were later discovered in her brain and abdomen. Margaret bravely faced multiple treatments, but a cure was not available. Michael was at her side throughout the ordeal, always investigating symptoms and side effects, finding the best practitioners, and altering their home to accommodate Margaret's diminishing mobility. Narrator Henry Strozier reads the story in a sober, respectful voice. Modern medicine has prolonged life with serious illnesses, thus expanding the role and duration of caregiving. This story provides support for the growing population of caregivers. Verdict A perfect companion for books on cancer or other serious illnesses.--Ann Weber, Bellarmine Coll. Prep., San Jose, CA

A devoted husband bears witness to his wife's final illness.Retired Simon Schuster editor-in-chief Korda (Alone: Britain, Churchill, and Dunkirk: Defeat Into Victory, 2017, etc.) offers a sensitive and absorbing chronicle of his wife's death from cancer a year after she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Joining a growing genre about death and dying that includes Sherwin Nuland's How We Die and Atul Gawande's Being Mortal, Korda's memoir is both a celebration of his 45-year marriage to his "lover, companion, and best friend" and a cleareyed account of the benefits and limits of medical intervention. Until she was stricken with brain cancer, Margaret Korda seemed invulnerable: a strong, athletic woman who loved the outdoors, rode horses competitively to win five national championships, and, even at the age of 79, retained the beauty and "perfect posture of the fashion model she once had been." Yet although she was remarkably healthy, the author discloses that she took an assortment of medications to treat depression and anxiety. "She was a perfectionist," he writes, "hard on herself, she worried about aging, losing her looks, what she would do with herself if she had to give up riding." Her fears made her wary of doctors, which is why, when she noticed a patch on her cheek, she covered it with makeup rather than have it removed and biopsied. By the time she agreed to remove it, the cancer had begun to spread. After the diagnosis of her brain tumor, Korda took it upon himself to find out as much as he could about the illness and treatment, devouring cancer sites on the internet and parsing medical information, hoping it would help him support Margaret's treatment. Despite finding an excellent, caring neurosurgeon, the author "struggled with alarm and despondency as I read about what lay in store for Margaret." He chronicles in detail her yearlong experience of surgeries, therapy, decline, and decision-making as the two learned the extent of her illness and, finally, abandoned "hope, illusions, [and] faith in miracles."A compassionate chronicle of a couple's last year. Copyright Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.