High conflict Why we get trapped and how we get out

Journalist Ripley (The Smartest Kids in the World, 2013; The Unthinkable, 2008) takes a deep dive into the concept of high conflict and its emergence in global and personal examples. Ripley defines high conflict as "a conflict that becomes self-perpetuating and all-consuming, in which almost everyone ends up worse off," and notes that "high conflicts happen everywhere, often under different names." Drawing on numerous research findings and real-life stories of individuals and communities interacting in high conflict, Ripley examines these polarizing situations, and identifies stakeholders and strategies for de-escalation. The fascinating stories, global history, and dialogue from local politics Ripley includes keep the book moving at a brisk pace. Ripley helps readers understand what feeds into and drives high conflict and its aftermath, through competing narratives and complicated experiences. Readers interested in conflict management and negotiation and the decision-making process will be intrigued as Ripley thoughtfully explains the intensities and nuances of conflict, and the crux of high conflict in any setting.

A revealing study of "high conflict," the intractable sort that seems to be running like a virus through American society. In a society, useful conflict helps advance social causes and proves "a force that pushes us to be better people." Journalist Ripley, author of The Smartest Kids in the World, contrasts this with "high conflict," the kind that leads practitioners to label their foes as evil rather than merely opposed, that causes us to think differently--and not for the better. "We feel increasingly certain of our own superiority and, at the same time, more and more mystified by the other side," writes the author, who adds that it is possible to teach ourselves to deescalate before high conflict results in violence, which is not inevitable but is all too often how such friction works out. Ripley's observations are provocative, and she introduces us to ideas of mediation and problem-solving that would make many people less miserable if put into practice. Sometimes, however, in the manner of magazine stories, the human-interest anecdotes feel like padding. Other times, the illustrative stories are right on point, as with Ripley's account of a group of largely conservative Michiganders and largely liberal New Yorkers who met, talked, met and talked more, and realized that they had commonalities enough to help them work through their differences: "Despite everything, in defiance of all the forces keeping them in conflict, they wanted to make sense of each other." The author adds that this happy result was ephemeral. When the two camps went back home, it didn't take long before each was entrenched in their former oppositional position, some members even more radicalized. This means, she concludes, that everyone involved has to put in the work: "To keep conflict healthy in an adversarial world, the encounters can't end." Students of mediation, social psychology, and conflict resolution will find much of value here. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.