So tell me about the last time you had sex Laying bare and learning to repair our love lives

Ian Kerner

Book - 2021

"Think about the last time you had sex. Who initiated? When and where did it happen? What was off-limits and why? In the end, did the sex leave you motivated to have more? Over the years, nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the category killer SHE COMES FIRST Ian Kerner has perfected the art of the "sex script analysis" - a way of looking at your sex life in action, moment by moment. In those details, an entire world is revealed. When the sex script works, we drop down into arousal and lose ourselves in pleasure. But when the sex script fails, it's all we can do not to ruminate over the details. In this book, Kerner is going to show you how to conceptualize and create a sex life that works for you. He'...ll help you figure out what's working, what's not, where you might be missing some elements, and how to construct a sex script that enshrines mutual satisfaction in the structure of the script itself. He'll also discuss many common sexual problems that occur routinely - low desire, mismatched libido for example, erectile unpredictability - and that may be interfering with your sex life. Combining clinical insight, the latest sexual science and research, case studies, homework assignments and more, this is a book that does more than just "talk" about sex; it's a book that will get you to do something about sex"--

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Published
New York : Grand Central Publishing 2021.
Language
English
Main Author
Ian Kerner (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
viii, 354 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9781538734858
  • Author's Note
  • Introduction: The Poetics of Sex
  • Chapter 1. Sex in Action
  • Part I. Beginning
  • Chapter 2. Desire and the Call to Sexual Action
  • Chapter 3. Touch
  • Chapter 4. A "Rec-relational" Approach to Sex
  • Chapter 5. Psychological Stimulation (Side-by-Side)
  • Chapter 6. Psychological Stimulation (Face-to-Face)
  • Chapter 7. Exploring Erotic Themes
  • Chapter 8. Expressing Your Inner Kinks
  • Chapter 9. Interlude: Sex, Shame, and Self-Location
  • Part II. Middle
  • Chapter 10. Outercourse
  • Chapter 11. Cliteracy in Action
  • Chapter 12. Deep Arousal (Male)
  • Chapter 13. Deep(er) Arousal (Male and Female)
  • Part III. End
  • Chapter 14. Orgasm: A Journey, Not a Destination
  • Chapter 15. Plateau: Entering a State of Reverie
  • Chapter 16. Entrainment into Orgasm
  • Chapter 17. After-Care
  • Part IV. All Together Now
  • Chapter 18. Getting Your Glow On
  • Chapter 19. Creating Sex Scripts that Confer Meaning
  • Part V. Problems, Solutions, And Useful Exercises
  • Chapter 20. Modifying Sex Scripts to Address Common Sexual Problems
  • Chapter 21. Desire/Arousal Issues and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 22. Erectile Unpredictability and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 23. Delayed Ejaculation and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 24. Early Ejaculation and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 25. Porn and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 26. Trauma and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 27. Pain and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 28. Gender Dysphoria and the Sex Script
  • Chapter 29. Exercises
  • Chapter 30. Talking It Out
  • Conclusion: Into Your Sexual Element
  • Acknowledgments
  • Notes
  • Index
  • About the Author