What is a dog? A memoir

Chloe Shaw, 1975-

Book - 2021

"On the heels of her family's beloved dog's death, one woman returns to the canines of her past in order to imagine the human she hopes to become in the future in her memoir, What Is a Dog? Chloe Shaw is in a dog house of her own choosing. A married mother with kids, the death of Booker, her children's eldest family pet, has left her reeling and reckoning with her lifelong relationship with dogs. Unable to shake the feeling a year later, she asks her family for some time alone to be with nothing but her thoughts and remaining canines, Safari and Otter--only to find the dogs of her past pawing at her every memory and running, sticks in mouths, back into her life. What follows is a meditation on one woman's life throu...gh the dogs she's loved and lost. Since she was a child, Shaw had learned to escape the hardest parts of being human by immersing herself in the lives of her canine companions, an adaptive attachment that carried her to adulthood. Yet, in marriage and motherhood, Shaw finds herself facing her most human struggles yet. Her old ways of 'being the dog' in the face of hardship prove destructive, and it's not until she's able to love herself and learn from the dogs of her past and present that can she truly thrive as a person, and show up for the family who needs her to be their person. With artful prose and a philosophical touch, Shaw takes us on an emotional journey anyone who has ever loved and lost a dog will connect with--and discovers dogs do more than just make our lives better--they quietly (and sometimes loudly) pull us boldly toward the person we were always meant to be"--

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Genres
Anecdotes
Published
New York : Flatiron Books 2021.
Language
English
Main Author
Chloe Shaw, 1975- (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
210 pages : illustration ; 22 cm
ISBN
9781250210746
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Review by Booklist Review

Debut essayist Shaw tracks her life through the dogs that have inhabited it. From Easy, recalled in the foggy early-childhood memory of her parents' "first baby," to Otter, the pup she brings home hoping to soothe the painful death of Booker, who'd been like her own first baby, Shaw finds more than just companionship in dogs. They reflect eras of life, ways of connecting to the world, and even function as extensions of herself. Shaw's language is lyrical and contemplative, whether relating small moments of intimacy or big feelings. This is a quiet, heartfelt, and memorable work that cuts right to the quick of the unique bond between dogs and their people. As she tries to cling to the fleeing present, a feeling of sadness pervades; we all know how dog books end. "What is a dog?" she asks, "Maybe a dog is a second chance." And lucky for us humans, and much like those ever-forgiving canines, we get those second chances again, and again, and again.

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Shaw debuts with a beautiful paean to dogs in this touching memoir recounting the canines who changed her life. When she and her husband Matt put their 15-year-old wolfdog Booker to sleep in 2015, she reckoned with the fact that "I've always felt safest, among the soft, oystered muzzles of dogs." After a year of mourning with her family, she decided to spend a week in what she refers to as the "Dog House"--alone with her two cats and two dogs, "where I can be less human for a while, more beast"--while her husband and kids went on vacation. In heartbreaking, lyrical prose, she meditates on the dogs "that shepherded me into adulthood," motherhood, and her decade of "hard-earned" marriage. Her first dog, an Afghan hound named Easy, was considered less a pet than a sibling to Shaw, who grew up an only child. When Easy died early of cancer, her family cycled through dogs, including two terriers named Agatha. However, Shaw's story never strays far from Booker and his "lion-sized heart," and the ways he taught her bravery and strength in the face of great loss. "He was my baby-dog-nonhuman-person-wolf. We were, every one of us in that house, in love." Dog lovers, take note and grab some tissues. (July)

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

In her first book, Shaw reflects on the meaning of canine companionship and how dogs transformed her life. After the family dog, Booker, died, a grieving Shaw began contemplating not only what her beloved canine did for her, but also the fears that had been her constant companions. The author was an only child, and her mother's Afghan hound, Easy, became her first "Dog-Sister" and helped her navigate the space between loving parents who avoided strong emotions. Later, a Scottie named Agatha 2 became the first canine to get "lodged in my heart." The pair grew so attached that the author herself was almost indistinguishable from Agatha 2, with relationships to her "humans" that mirrored those her Scottie had with them. Yet Agatha 2 could not save Shaw from the anxiety that gnawed her from within and manifested as "horribly ravaged fingernails" in an otherwise well-groomed adolescence. Her first teenage love, Josh, taught her how to intimately know herself but caused her guilt for spending time away from an aging Agatha 2. Her dog's death coincided with a cancer diagnosis for Josh's mother and high school graduation. Shaw decided to break up with Josh, and when she fell in love again, it would be with her future husband and Booker, a dog she realized had united the "Dog, Girl, Woman, Wife, Mother," only to shatter her with his death. "Just as Booker's life so exquisitely fused my separate selves," she writes, "Booker's death left me splintered all over again." Forced to confront her anxiety, Shaw came to understand that the only way to remain whole was to "let in the dogs" of her own fears and feelings. This poignant and gracefully written memoir amply embraces the complexities of the human-dog relationship in a uniquely personal way, and it's also a moving story of self-acceptance. A dog lover's warmhearted delight. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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