Getting to zero How to work through conflict in your high-stakes relationships

Jayson Gaddis

Book - 2021

"The fastest way to indestructible relationships is to become good at working through conflict, together. Conflicts in our closest relationships are scary because so much is at stake. If the conflict doesn't go well, we could lose our marriage, our family or our job, all connected to our security and survival. So we do just about anything not to lose those relationships, including avoid conflict, betraying ourselves or becoming dishonest. Unresolved conflict affects every single aspect of our lives, from self-confidence to physical and mental health. Jayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world's leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals,... couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero-how "clean and clear" we feel with others when we have successfully worked through a disagreement. We get to a place where there is "zero" conflict. In Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the reader how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them. Through funny personal stories, uncomfortable examples, and effective tools and skills, he shows the reader how to move from disconnection to connection, acceptance, and understanding. This method upgrades the old tired and static conflict resolution approaches and offers a fresh, street-level, user-friendly road map on exactly how to work through conflict with the people you care most about"--

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Subjects
Published
New York : Go Hachette Books 2021.
Language
English
Main Author
Jayson Gaddis (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
xii, 308 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN
9780306924811
  • My life of conflict
  • What is conflict?
  • How most people do conflict
  • How to become a relational leader
  • Your relational blueprint
  • Your scared animal
  • The price tag of avoiding conflict
  • How to resolve your inner conflict
  • How to be with your triggers during conflict
  • How to be with their triggers during conflict
  • How to listen during and after conflict
  • How to speak during and after conflict
  • The five most common fights and how to face them
  • The ten roadblocks to reconnection and what to do instead
  • The twelve agreements to ease conflict
  • How to resolve value differences
  • If you can't get to zero.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Counselor Gaddis (The Smart Couple Quote Book) presents information from his work with the Relationship School, a consultancy for helping individuals and businesses develop stronger interpersonal relationships, about the nature and value of conflict to keep relationships healthy. Conflict is not limited to big fights and shouting matches, Gaddis writes, before exploring low-level discomforts which "are much more subtle and nuanced." His goal is to help readers understand how to "get to zero" in conflicts--which is an understanding that resolution can only come through reconnecting with others and ourselves. Gaddis first advises readers to move from feeling like a victim to being the "author" in their own life by redirecting memories and stories one tells themselves about the past--experiences that inform how one react to others, even in situations that do not involve trauma or extreme stress. Gaddis then provides steps for managing triggers (such as breathing exercises), being a good listener, and when and how to respond to contentious people or situations. Gaddis's solid groundwork will help anyone who fears conflict or wants their relationships to gain depth and intimacy. Agent: Jan Miller at Dupree Miller & Assoc. (Oct.)

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