Status games Why we play and how to stop

Loretta Graziano Breuning

Book - 2021

"People care about status despite their best intentions because our brains are wired this way. But playing status games can be stressful, anxiety-provoking, and joy-stealing. Learn to rewire your brain to replace the trap of social comparison with joy of self-confidence"--

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Published
Lanham, MD : Rowman & Littlefield [2021]
Language
English
Main Author
Loretta Graziano Breuning (author)
Physical Description
x, 179 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes index.
ISBN
9781538144190
  • Preface: How I Stopped Selling
  • Introduction: Why We Care about Status
  • Part 1. Why Status Games are Relentless
  • 1. Status Games in Animals
  • 2. Social Rivalry among Early Humans
  • 3. Status Games around the World
  • Part 2. How Our Brain Creates Status Games
  • 4. Serotonin and the Pleasure of Social Dominance
  • 5. Cortisol and Status Stress
  • 6. Why It's Always High School in Your Brain
  • Part 3. Healthy Alternatives to Status Games
  • 7. A Healthy Serotonin Mindset
  • 8. Practical Steps toward Serotonin
  • 9. Help Others Escape Status Games
  • Epilogue
  • Index
  • About the Author
Review by Booklist Review

Our mammalian brains are hard-wired to seek status, according to Breuning, founder of the Inner Mammal Institute. Animals have pecking orders for obtaining food and seeking reproductive partners. Similarly, we are rewarded with a dose of serotonin when we buy a better car, display stronger ethics, build a better body, or snag a cuter partner. Social media feeds into the competitive quest for status. But Breuning proposes a better way to be rewarded by lifting yourself up without dragging anyone else down. Her unique inquiry in neurological and social aspects of status games includes fascinating looks into the role status-seeking played in the lives of various luminaries, including Charles Darwin, Jane Austen, Booker T. Washington, and Alexander Hamilton. The solution to the conflicts raised by comparison and competition that Breuning offers in this thought-provoking study is to choose a middle path between the fast and slow lanes of life, understand our mammalian urges, and learn techniques for rewiring out brains to build new inner pathways that shift our focus away from the stress of rivalry to the rewards of personal growth.

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

In this engrossing, matter-of-fact examination of the human being as a social animal, Breuning (Habits of a Happy Brain) details the biological origins of the innate need for status. "We all fret over social comparison because we've all inherited a limbic brain that does that," suggests Breuning. "Fortunately, we have power over these emotions when we know how we create them." She explores how hormones (particularly oxytocin, serotonin, and cortisol) create instinctive human responses--even addictions--to approval from others and how one can change these responses. Her advice: accept one's mammalian urge for social importance, make a plan consisting of small steps that amount to a goal one can be proud of and takes into account the approval of others as a motivator, then repeat the new steps so a new pathway (or habit) builds toward healthy attachments to achievement. One of the most intriguing facts explains why people commonly feel they "see the world through a lens built in high school," where social status and popularity play an outsized role: neuroplasticity peaks in adolescence, so the pathways we build in those years get quite large. Breuning's winning combination of simple advice for small changes and accessible science-based assessments make this a standout. Anyone who wonders about the age-old question of nature vs. nurture will devour this slim volume that weighs both sides evenly. (Sept.)

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