Don't think, dear On loving & leaving ballet

Alice Robb

Book - 2023

"An incisive exploration of ballet's role in the modern world, told through the experience of the author and her classmates at the most elite ballet school in the country: the School of American Ballet. Ballet is an art full of hyper-feminine trappings, but beneath the ornate costumes and exaggerated stage makeup, traits like thinness, stoicism, and submission are valued above all else. Journalist Alice Robb spent years immersed in that universe as a child, but as an adult, she couldn't shake the feeling that the same laws that governed the dance world still applied in the regular one. Certain bodies hold more value than others, and men oftentimes hold the most power of all. Pain is best left concealed, along with sexuality, ...in all of its messiness. Obedience and conformity are rewarded, while standing out comes at a cost. Profound, nuanced, and obsessively researched, Don't Think, Dear, is Robb's excavation of her adolescent years as a dancer, and an exploration of how those days informed her life for years to come. As she grapples with the pressure she faced as a student at the storied School of American Ballet, she explores the fates of her former classmates as well. From sweet and shy Emily--whose body was deemed "thin enough" only when she was too ill to eat--to the precocious and talented Meiying--who despite her success, had to contend with the fact that she was the only Vietnamese-American in the school. Altogether, their stories are ones of heartbreak and resilience, of reinvention and regret. Along the way, Robb weaves in the myths of famous ballerinas past and present, from the groundbreaking Misty Copeland, to the controversial George Balanchine. Ballet does not exist in a vacuum, it is a laboratory of womanhood, a test-tube world in which traditional femininity is exaggerated. By exploring the psyche of a dancer, Don't Think, Dear grapples with the contradictions and challenges of being a woman today. It's also a story about chasing your dreams, however complicated, and learning when to let them go"--

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Subjects
Genres
Biographies
History
Autobiographies
Published
New York : Mariner Books [2023]
Language
English
Main Author
Alice Robb (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
293 pages ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (pages 259-279) and index.
ISBN
9780358653332
  • Introduction
  • Mr. B
  • A very extreme sense of escape and control
  • Little rats
  • Brought up to turn off
  • Just try to look nice, dear
  • Crown of thorns
  • They make you feel like an hourglass
  • Brains in their toes
  • Reverence.
Review by Booklist Review

Behind the ethereal beauty of a ballet performance is a world fraught with sexual politics, body obsession, and pain. As a student at the School of American Ballet founded by George Balanchine, Robb (Why We Dream, 2018) witnessed firsthand the disconnect between ballet on- and off-stage. She draws on her own experiences and those of her fellow students and incorporates the stories of such ballet luminaries as Misty Copeland, Suzanne Farrell, Gelsey Kirkland, Alicia Alonso, and Maria Tallchief. Most ballet directors and choreographers are male, and the majority of dancers are female, and that imbalance has often resulted in the abuse of power and the destruction of dance careers. Robb examines the legacy of "Mr. B." and his successors and writes with strong emotions about the sacrifices dancers make in the pursuit of perfection. Her analysis is informed by extensive research and she includes recommendations for further reading and viewing as well as a generous bibliography. An insightful look at the world of ballet and the choices and challenges faced by those who would be part of it.

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Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Journalist Robb (Why We Dream: The Transformative Power of Our Nightly Journey) recounts her tenure as a student at the School of American Ballet in this insightful memoir. Robb always dreamed of becoming a professional ballerina and was offered a spot at the school, which is noted for its low admission rate, in the early 2000s, but a few years later she was expelled due to her lack of progress. Robb interweaves her story with those of four classmates, who all eventually left ballet. The narrative excels in detailing the physical demands of ballet, such as the preparation for a jump from a deep plié, the overly familiar touches of a pas de deux partner or dance master, and the suppressed pain that simmers en pointe. But when Robb poses meaty questions--such as why New York City Ballet artistic director and SAB cofounder George Balanchine's protégés remained loyal to him despite his history of paternalism, or if her idea of femininity changed after leaving ballet--there are no clear-cut answers. Even so, Robb provides searing glimpses of life behind the curtain, and captures her appreciation for ballet's "hyperfeminine trappings." This will deepen readers' understanding of the insular world of ballet. Agent: Bridget Matzie, Aevitas Creative. (Feb.)

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Review by Library Journal Review

Robb (Why We Dream) delves into ballet culture and the experience of taking ballet classes in her youth and how it stayed with her and her classmates. She took classes at the School of American Ballet, founded by George Balanchine. Robb interweaves tales of Misty Copeland, American Ballet Theatre's first Black Principal ballerina, and Margot Fonteyn, an iconic figure in British ballet, but she also looks at everyday students who take classes for fun or because they think they can become prima ballerinas. The majority of ballet choreography is by men, while women make up the majority of dancers. The book indicates that sexual politics is key in getting cast. The author captures the ballet world, replete with anorexia and body obsession, and includes a section on Gelsey Kirkland and the struggles she detailed in her memoir Dancing on My Grave. Robb immerses readers in the dance milieu and what sacrifices are made for a beautiful fantasy. There is an extensive bibliography. VERDICT Captures ballet's romance as well as its dark and traumatic side.--Barbara Kundanis

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

A freelance journalist and former ballet dancer reflects on her complex feelings about ballet, femininity, and the female body. Robb, author of Why We Dream, wanted to be a ballerina from the time she was a small child. At age 9, after two rejections, she became a student at the prestigious School of American Ballet. She never joined the ranks of professional ballet dancers, but even as an adult, she found she could not "unlearn the values of ballet" that glorified--and exaggerated--feminine traits such as "thinness…stoicism…silence and submission." The author examines her SAB experiences alongside those of famous ballerinas, many of whom worked with SAB founder and unofficial patron saint, George Balanchine. Famous for bringing athleticism to ballet, he also exercised strict control over every aspect of his dancers' lives. Robb observes that this structure, though occasionally overbearing, has saved many women--including African American ballet star Misty Copeland--from their own dysfunctional backgrounds. At the same time, ballet's (racist) equation of beauty with Whiteness has also forced female dancers of color to make humiliating compromises--e.g., painting their faces and arms White to just "blend in." The discipline required to dance ballet also offers women "the perverse pleasure of abdicating responsibility," as it inculcates passivity. For example, in the 1940s and '50s, British dancer Margot Fonteyn, for example, allowed herself to be underpaid, and ballerinas like Gelsey Kirkland sacrificed their health to maintain the emaciated physique that ballet--and choreographers like Balanchine--demanded. Still others, including Copeland, sacrificed broken bones, torn ligaments, and other injuries to practice their art. At once a tribute to the art form that shaped her and an exploration of a "beautiful pain cult," this engaging book will appeal to dance lovers and anyone interested in the entangled nature of patriarchy, race, and ballet. An elegantly incisive, meditative work. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

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