Real friends talk about race

This crucial text centers on the perspectives of two friends, Mukantabana (of Rwandan and Jewish descent) and Summerhill (who is white and Jewish), hosts of the podcast The Kinswomen. Conversations around race are difficult in friendships because of the fear that talking about the subject will kill "good vibes." Mukantabana has feared losing friends, dealing with white fragility or defensiveness, or being treated like Google. Interracial relationships are layered "and require a different kind of emotional labor." The authors also push white people to be accountable for harm they can cause, even if unintentional, and to make real changes. They are aware of the racial power dynamics in their friendship and acknowledge that while antiracism work centers on white people, it's essential for BIPOC "to have a space to talk about our experiences." Allyship is a continuous journey, and people must be willing to put in the time. Their perspectives shine a much-needed critical light on how white allies can listen and make meaningful actions toward dismantling the status quo. Accessible and featuring helpful Q & As throughout, the book breaks down everything from communication, allyship, white supremacy, microaggressions, and newer concepts such as blackfishing. Essential for public libraries and book clubs.