How trust works The science of how relationships are built, broken, and repaired

Our society is built on trust, says the author. But increasingly, this trust, so essential to friendships, work relationships, and home security, is misplaced or betrayed. In these times of political and social turmoil, trust has diminished. As a son of immigrants and a social scientist, Kim became interested in the process of trust as he watched his parents try to navigate their new homeland, fighting to build a business, find a home, and seek acceptance. How do we build, maintain, and repair trust in a society with mass shootings, civil unrest, and questionable politics? Kim digs below the surface to examine the roles of competence and integrity, using historical records and scientific and case studies. Credit cards get stolen, marriages break up, and people get scammed. Genuine trust requires risk and vulnerability and isn't always sustainable. Not all apologies are sincere; not all retribution is enough. But Kim offers guidance on seeing the good in others, seeking the truth, understanding intent, and finding the right moment. Ultimately hopeful, this intriguing study is a welcome light in these murky times.

A social scientist argues that we should trust that the things that bind us are greater than the things that divide us. Despite the importance of trust in every area of our lives, we rarely think about it deeply. Kim, a professor of management and organization at the University of Southern California, has made it his life's work, and this book examines the subject from a variety of perspectives. He notes that many societies around the world have become less trusting in the past decades, but in the U.S., distrust has reached epidemic levels. Americans have become prone to believing rumors, gossip, and accusations even when they suspect they are unfounded. Now, the default position, Kim suggests, is to think the worst of anyone outside our inner circles. The reasons appear to be connected to the emphasis that the media, including social media, place on the negative. Kim differentiates between competence distrust, where we do not believe someone is capable of doing what they say they will do; and integrity distrust, where we believe that someone is trying to mislead and damage us. Integrity distrust is the more dangerous, although it is often a matter of perception rather than reality--and this points to possible ways to rebuild trust. The offended person has to accept honest differences and be willing to forgive when no offense is intended. Kim admits that some people are simply not worth trusting, but his point is that most are, and we should be aware of the costs of forever remaining offended. Equally, the offender must be ready to make a genuine apology and make appropriate amends. This change of mindset is not easy, and Kim believes that each person must make that journey for themselves. But it is well worth the effort--and necessary if we hope to escape the distrust trap. A thoughtful, well-researched study of a "critical foundation" of society. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.