Unearthing A story of tangled love and family secrets

Kyo Maclear, 1970-

Book - 2023

"Three months after Kyo Maclear's father dies in December 2018, she gets the results of a DNA test showing that she and the father who raised her are not biologically related. Suddenly Maclear becomes a detective in her own life, unravelling a family mystery piece by piece, and assembling the story of her biological father. Along the way, larger questions arise: what exactly is kinship? And what does it mean to be a family? Unearthing is a captivating and propulsive story of inheritance that goes beyond heredity. Infused with moments of suspense, it is also a thoughtful reflection on race, lineage, and our cultural fixation on recreational genetics. Readers of Michelle Zauner's bestseller Crying in H Mart will recognize Macle...ar's unflinching insights on grief and loyalty, and keen perceptions into the relationship between mothers and daughters. What gets planted, and what gets buried? What role does storytelling play in unearthing the past and making sense of a life? Can the humble act of tending a garden provide common ground for an inquisitive daughter and her complicated mother? As it seeks to answer these questions, Unearthing bursts with the very love it seeks to understand"--

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Genres
Autobiographies (literary genre)
Autobiographies
Published
New York : Scribner 2023.
Language
English
Main Author
Kyo Maclear, 1970- (author)
Edition
First Scribner hardcover edition
Physical Description
393 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
ISBN
9781668012604
  • Prologue
  • January-march 2019
  • 1. Daikan (Greater Cold)
  • The beginning
  • Curses
  • Love
  • Grandmother
  • Mystery
  • Test
  • Circle
  • March-may 2019
  • 2. Shunbun (Spring Equinox)
  • Little peach
  • Head gardener
  • Something
  • Facebook
  • Harley street
  • General
  • Peaches
  • 1969
  • Angel
  • April 2019
  • 3. Seimei (Clear and Bright)
  • Outtakes
  • Flower cards
  • A photograph
  • Scenery
  • Japanese artist
  • Records
  • May-june 2019
  • 4. Kokuu (Harvest Rain)
  • Two hands
  • Woods
  • Flat plants
  • Light
  • Relative strangers
  • Waterpark
  • What was he like?
  • Privacy
  • Second brother
  • Suppose
  • Nomenclature
  • Fixing something
  • July-august 2019
  • 5. Taisho (Greater Heat)
  • Falling
  • Handsome
  • Promise
  • Passport in benevolence
  • Heart
  • Facts
  • Dear brother
  • A reply
  • August 6
  • Escaper
  • Meeting
  • Sunflowers
  • Newspaper
  • Judgment
  • Maybe
  • Separation
  • Soft
  • Contradictory things
  • Awake
  • August-September 2019
  • 6. Shosho (Manageable Heat)
  • August 25
  • Pram
  • Yarrow
  • Beauty
  • Clarity
  • Heart
  • Ma
  • September 2019
  • 7. Hakuro (White Dew)
  • Plant witness
  • Giverny
  • September 9
  • Untoward
  • October 2019
  • 8. Kanro (Cold Dew)
  • Night garden
  • Secreting
  • Dear parents
  • Hiding
  • Summon
  • Sukkot
  • Descendant
  • October 2019
  • 9. Soko (Frost Falls)
  • Decay
  • Goodbye
  • Blue
  • Spoon
  • Loop
  • Grave
  • November 2019
  • 10. Ritto (Beginning of Winter)
  • Holding
  • Report
  • Drawing
  • Press
  • Tsuyoku
  • 444
  • December 2019-august 2020
  • 11. Toji (Winter Solstice)
  • Winterese
  • Side loves
  • The water flows
  • Wake up
  • Backstage
  • Envy
  • Spill
  • February 2020
  • Touch
  • Listing
  • Edoardo
  • Relations
  • Ma
  • Weather
  • Forgetoir
  • September 2020-september 2021
  • 12. Sekki (Small Seasons)
  • Ink
  • Ear
  • Operating manual
  • Ma
  • The yard
  • Dear daughter
  • Fall 2021
  • Afterword: i remember
  • Herbarium
  • Acknowledgments
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Novelist Maclear (Birds Art Love) meditates on genealogy and family secrets in this impressive memoir. In 2019, three months after the man who raised her died, Maclear discovered through a DNA test that he was not her biological father. She first sought the truth about her parentage from her Japanese mother, whose health was rapidly declining, but was forced to find most of the answers herself. In short sections named for the 24 seasons of the traditional Japanese calendar, Maclear unravels her family's history, exploring how her surrogate father's infidelity, her parents' infertility, and her mother's secrets influenced her own views on love and family: "Marital love is extreme. It is stamina," she writes. "Marital love with complications or doubts is not a fiasco. It is a marriage." Throughout, Maclear finds beauty in the natural world, tapping into interests, such as gardening, that she inherited from her mother: "I tend the soil for my sons now. In my mother's shadow, I am learning how love vacillates." As she uncovers previously unknown Jewish ancestry, she expands her understanding of her own mixed-race heritage, and the ways blood relationship have and haven't impacted her sense of self. Maclear's precise, hypnotic prose will appeal to readers of Margaret Renkl. This quiet story lingers. Agent: Jackie Kaiser, Westwood Creative. (Aug.)

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

Playing on metaphors from her avocation as a gardener, Maclear chronicles her discovery of "a secret buried for half a century." The author's Japanese mother closely held that secret until Maclear's English father died, after which she learned that he was not her biological father. The identity of the person who was, an older man about town in London who raced cars and owned a restaurant, surprised her, her old-country English identity replaced by a Russian Jewish bloodline with hitherto unknown siblings all over the world. That discovery prompted this pensive meditation on what lies beneath the soil of ancestry as well as the ways in which people attempt to find happiness and meaning in life. While her mother had never intended to be a "good cultural ambassador or an Elegant Japanese Lady," she did invest a great deal of herself in a wild patch of land that defied the minimalism of the idealized Zen garden. Maclear draws meaning from that habit of getting one's hands dirty in the Earth while pondering the thought that, as her mother said, a person becomes a person not just by remembering, but also by forgetting. Maclear's response, among many: "Dear parents, the deep knowledge you tried to bury and erase still managed to leave something behind." Though seldom snarky, the author is often indignant, working hard to muster the sympathy needed to understand why her parents would have disguised a long-ago affair. Many memoirs have examined issues of paternity and parental infidelity, but Maclear's stands out due to elegant writing and insightful musings on the making and shaping of identities, always with the garden behind her to provide an anchor. "I remember a filmmaker friend telling me we get new family in the middle of our life so we remember our identities are always dying and regenerating," she writes. "To remind us: we can be green again." A lovely meditation on the hidden past and the blossoming present. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Prologue PROLOGUE MA WAS A GARDENER. WHERE she saw gradients of celadon, emerald, sage, olive, I saw only a thin green blur. When given a plant by someone who thought I looked capable, I would start out full of hope. I admired the buds for opening with confidence and the buoyant way the leaves unrolled. But before too long, the sprightly leaves would wilt or crisp. The Madagascar jasmine, enfeebled by too little sun or not enough water, would sigh toward the ground. The peace lily, overflooded with daily attention, would sag and expire. All the sad plants... I could not, in spite of my mother's effortless example, and my effortful efforts, keep them alive. Then things took an unexpected turn and what I had dismissed as not for me but for my mother suddenly moved to the fore. In early spring, 2019, it was determined through DNA testing that I was unrelated to the man I had always thought was my father. Well into the journey of my life, the imagined map of my family, with its secure placement of names and borders, was suddenly very wrong. All at once, my silver-haired mother became unknown to me. She had a big story to tell, a story of a secret buried for half a century. A story that she struggled to express--or had no wish to express--in her adoptive language, English. I wanted my mother's story. I wanted a tale that could put my world back together. But each time I pressed, my mother shook her head. My mother had never really liked stories. She looked at them with suspicion. All my life she questioned both the ones I read and the ones I wrote. All my life, she asked: What are you doing? And nine times out of ten, I replied: I am writing or I am reading . Both answers brought forth the look . The look rightly asked, What purpose is there to your efforts? The look accurately said, No one can eat a story, no one can dine on a book . On the rare occasion someone commended my writing in her company, she bore a weary smile. A smile that pitied the speaker for not realizing there were better, more reputable products out there; better, less soft ways to spend a life. But the look also said: Don't squander it. Write something worthy and practical... write a plant book. In 2019, what did and did not work between us was now irrelevant. All the ways we had been at odds in life no longer mattered. I needed to understand my mother better, and the only way to do so was in the language she knew best. Given the state of my forgotten first language, Japanese, I chose her second fluently spoken language, the one she never pushed on me: the wild and green one. This is a plant book made of soil, seed, leaf and mulch. In 2019, I turned to the small yard outside our house and the plants my mother had woven into my life, to bridge a gap between us. The yard was scruffy and overgrown. It belonged to the city, to the bank and, most truly, for thousands of years, and still, to the Michi Saagiig Nishnaabeg. With my sleeves rolled and my fingers mingling with the rose-gray earthworms, I set to work. It did not go well. Not at first. The garden quickly informed me: I did not know plants. I knew only my idea of them, and you cannot grow an idea. The garden said: This will not work if you are only here for the metaphor. The garden asked me to remember the child I was, a child who loved getting dirty, and to remember that first lesson: Nothing grows if you keep yourself clean, smooth, undisturbed . When I stopped attributing every little plant event to my own doing and realized I did not have control (the opposite of a storyteller's mindset), the plants began to grow. When I remembered that plots are often driven and overturned by underestimated agents, I stopped underestimating. A mother enters a story. But how does she enter? How does she walk across the pages of a book? Does she enter wearing her regret, rage, sadness or humor? Does she enter boxing away clichés and pushing against containment? Does she enter demanding payment? Does she enter as a gardener? I learned more about my mother's plant passions, to feel the events and landscape that passed through her heart, to take stock of what I had failed sufficiently to notice and love--the unseen greens, the hazy "scenery" of life. I am the sole keeper of my family's stories. "What stories? Why stories?" she says. Excerpted from Unearthing: A Story of Tangled Love and Family Secrets by Kyo Maclear All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.