Surrounded by energy vampires : how to slay the time, joy, and soul suckers in your life

Surrounded by energy vampires How to slay the time, joy, and soul suckers in your life

Thomas Erikson, 1965-

Book - 2023

"Vanquish the energy thieves in your life and at work. Are there people in your life that leave you feeling drained, depleted, and just exhausted? Twenty minutes with these people and you feel as if you've just run a marathon. They demand limitless time, emotional support, attention, or affirmation; you dread interacting with them but don't know how to change the dynamic. You've just encountered a real-life vampire. Dracula has nothing on these ubiquitous social villains who take-time, energy, attention, emotional capacity--reciprocating, and leave you too exhausted to protest. Energy vampires can be people, situations, or even your own mindset, but in Surrounded by Energy Vampires, internationally best-selling author Th...omas Erikson identifies the different types of energy vampires and offers practical tools, fun self-assessments, and relatable stories to help you combat them. Using the same simple, four-color behavior that made Surrounded by Idiots a runaway bestseller, Surrounded by Energy Vampires will help you slay the energy sucking interactions in your life whether they're lurking at the office, amongst your friends, or in your own home"--

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Subjects
Interpersonal conflict.
Interpersonal relations.
PSYCHOLOGY / General.
Interpersonal conflict
Interpersonal relations
Published
New York : St. Martin's Essentials 2023.
Language
English
Swedish
Main Author
Thomas Erikson, 1965- (author)
Other Authors
Jan Salomonsson (translator)
Edition
First U.S. edition
Item Description
Translation of: Omgiven av energitjuvar. Translated from the Swedish.
Physical Description
xi, 348 pages : illustrations ; 21 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9781250907561
  • Introduction: The Time I Almost Gave Up
  • 1. How to Spot an Energy Vampire
  • 2. The Perfectionist, an Annoyingly Common Variety
  • Daniel: A Case Study
  • When Control Freaks Go Too Far
  • The Reliable Energy vampire
  • Why People Become Perfectionists
  • How Perfectionists Can Awaken Your Inner Teenager
  • 3. Drama Queens Who Demand Red Carpets
  • Peacocks Who Shoot from the Hip
  • How to Tell If Your Friend Is a Drama Queen in Disguise
  • When Pie in the Sky Crashes to the Ground
  • Hopeless but Charming
  • 4. The Bully, an Unstoppable Tyrant
  • Not Quite Psychopaths
  • Live to Fight Another Day … If You Can
  • Seeing Red or Turning Yellow
  • Some Good Advice for Taking On an Impossible Challenge
  • 5. Passive-Aggressive People: Fists in Pockets
  • None of It Was My Fault
  • The Art of Sulking
  • How Did Things End Up Like This?
  • How to Keep from Becoming a Nervous Wreck
  • 6. The Eternal Victim Who Demands Constant Attention
  • Clinging to Victimhood When the Wind Is in Their Sails
  • How to Nudge Somebody Out of Their Comfort Zone
  • 7. Narcissists: The Greatest, the Best, and the Most Beautiful
  • Top of the Podium Without Any Real Prize
  • Self-Obsession Deluxe
  • Sharpening a Shark's Teeth
  • How to Play the Game
  • 8. A Few Less Serious but Nonetheless Annoying Types
  • The Whiner
  • The Walking Disaster
  • The Know-It-All
  • The Most Complicated Energy Vampire of All
  • Failing to Reach Your Goals
  • Wasting Time Is Wasting Energy
  • 9. A Survey of the Four Colors
  • A Simple Way of Making Sense of Human Behavior
  • The DISC Theory: A Study in Energy Loss
  • What Color Is Your Energy Vampire?
  • In Closing
  • References
  • Index
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Erikson (Surrounded by Narcissists) outlines a down-to-earth approach to dealing with the people he calls "energy vampires," the "uninvited mental squatter, who seem to live to drain everybody around them." Energy vampires can be perfectionists, drama queens, narcissists, bullies, whiners, or know-it-alls, according to the author, who offers tips for recognizing each variety (narcissists interpret "criticism as an expression of envy," while bullies "invariably blame others for their own mistakes"). Erikson explains how to use the DISC model, which categorizes personality types by color and is based on the work of psychologist William Moulton Marston, to identify the vampires uniquely harmful to each reader: perfectionists particularly rankle "yellows," who chafe against constant criticism, while "greens" have "evasive and deferential demeanors" that render them "excellent targets" for narcissists. After suggesting strategies for handling each type in personal and professional settings, Erikson explains how readers can work through their own energy-sucking habits by sharpening communication skills and improving self-awareness. While the focus on the hyperspecifics of the DISC model sometimes distracts, readers will find plenty of useful strategies, and Erikson's general ethos--"I can't change anybody else, but I can change myself"--inspires. It's a solid resource for those eager to protect their inner peace in a hectic world. (Oct.)

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