Getting over ourselves Moving beyond a culture of burnout, loneliness, and narcissism
Book - 2024
"We've reached a tipping point. Today's ecologically and socially precarious world is calling for new solutions to old problems. But at this time of urgency the Millennial Generation, the largest generation in the United States, is faltering. Strapped with unprecedented student debt and suffering from the double-punch of recent financial crises, the Millennial cohort of 72.1 million Americans is called a new "Lost Generation." And these economic struggles have been accompanied by a crisis in mental health. Most self-help books that encourage individuals to "hack" life--to produce more and achieve more, even to "adult" more--are not meeting the needs of our time and may be part of the problem rath...er than the solution. Getting Over Ourselves shows people how they can orient to something beyond the endless and exhausting striving of achievement-oriented culture. It simultaneously offers a reprieve from burnout and a provocative call to move beyond the status-quo to tackle the problems of our time. This book challenges the premise of the self-help genre--namely, that there is a separate, solitary self in need of constant improvement. Rather, it identifies our generation's preoccupation with self-improvement as a source of their suffering and uses developmental psychology to guide members of this generation toward a new level of maturity--one that reconnects them with their deepest humanity and their greatest potential to lead in a troubled world."--
- Subjects
- Genres
- Self-help publications
- Published
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Hoboken, New Jersey :
John Wiley & Sons, Inc
[2024]
- Language
- English
- Main Author
- Physical Description
- xiii, 258 pages : illustrations, charts ; 24 cm
- Bibliography
- Includes bibliographical references (pages 203-238) and index.
- ISBN
- 9781394169856
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- Part I. The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves
- 1. A World on Edge
- Paradise Burning
- Stressed to Death
- A Failed Prediction
- Keynes Versus Hayek
- The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism
- 2. Lost Heroes
- Selfie Generation
- Lonely Generation
- Burnout Generation
- Lost Generation
- Another Failed Prediction?
- 3. Spirals of Change
- What Was Enlightenment?
- From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer
- Tracing the Path of Human Development
- The Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind)
- The Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind)
- The Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind)
- Toxic Achieverism
- Spiral to Arc
- 4. Wandering at an Apex
- The Self-Questioning Transformer
- Navigating the Postmodern Terrain
- Neoliberal Quicksand
- Destroy This Model
- Slipping Through the Cracks
- Part II. Un-Self Help
- 5. Selfies and Self-Realization
- Guidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility
- Narcissism as Mistaken Identity
- Default Mode
- Narrative Versus Minimal Self
- The True Meaning of Humility
- The Richness of Self-Realization
- Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment
- 6. Loneliness and Oneness
- Guidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence
- Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes
- Psychological Interdependence:The Resonant Brain
- Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny
- Anchoring in the Practice of Connection
- 7. Burnout and Wholeheartedness
- Guidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability
- When Your Heart's Not in It
- Heart as Escape Hatch
- Mark of the Valkyries
- Real Compassion
- Vulnerable Confidence
- The Heart of Yes and No
- Anchoring in the Practice of Courage
- 8. Lost and Liberated
- Guidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness
- Dare to Not Know
- Staying with Uncertainty
- The Cure in Curiosity
- Relaxing into Insight
- The Mindful Brain
- The Modern Mindfulness Trap
- Anchoring in the Practice of Wonder
- Part III. Concluding and Beginning
- 9. Friends Between Worlds
- Calling All Builders
- Power in Diversity, Diversity in Power
- Moving Slowly
- Listening Deeply
- Loving Fiercely
- I Don't Want to Move to Mars
- Room for Alternatives
- Heroes of Belonging
- Notes
- References
- Recommended Reading
- About the Author
- Index