We need to talk about divorce An important book about separation, stepfamilies, and feeling heard

Kate Scharff

Book - 2025

"There are no two ways about it--divorces are tough. In this kid-centric guide for the children of parents going through a separation, divorce therapist Kate Scharff tackles all of the important questions and provides essential advice to help kids navigate this painful and confusing time."--Back cover.

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Children's Room New Shelf j306.89/Scharff (NEW SHELF) Due Nov 6, 2025
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Genres
Informational works
Documents d'information
Published
London : Neon Squid 2025.
Language
English
Main Author
Kate Scharff (author)
Other Authors
Annika Le Large (illustrator)
Item Description
Subtitle and authors from cover.
Includes index.
Physical Description
64 pages : color illustrations ; 22 cm
Audience
Ages 10-14.
Grades 5-9.
ISBN
9781684494484
9781916745025
  • Introduction
  • This is so not fair!
  • Telling them how you feel
  • What is a divorce?
  • Finding out
  • There's no wrong reaction
  • Getting an explanation
  • When you can't get a straight answer
  • It's not your fault
  • So, whose fault is it?
  • Where will you live?
  • Two homes
  • When will you see each parent?
  • Back and forth
  • Why did you do that?
  • Missing each other and staying in touch
  • Upsetting things people say
  • All parents argue
  • You don't have to choose sides
  • They're still both your parents
  • Special occasions
  • Money stuff
  • Divorce rituals
  • You'll want to make changes
  • When your parents start dating
  • Stepparents and stepsiblings
  • A new normal
  • Divorce makes a lot of things better
  • Glossary
  • Index
  • Acknowledgments
Review by Kirkus Book Review

Dealing with divorce isn't easy, but this work offers some helpful guidance. Scharff, an experienced psychotherapist, has arranged the book in roughly chronological order, discussing how young people might feel when they first learn their parents are separating and defining the termdivorce before covering topics such as new living arrangements and the possibility of their parents dating again. Each brief section includes bright, cartoon-style images of children and adults. Le Large's visual metaphors--a child literally being ping-ponged between two parents; kids walking a tightrope--help clarify Scharff's sound explanations, often leavening the topic with humor. The illustrations depict families engaging in conversations, with realistic but compassionate dialogue conveyed through speech bubbles. Laudably, Scharff's tone is positive and nonjudgmental; though she notes that readers will feel angry or upset, she writes that in the long run, young people may be even happier. She stresses that young people aren't at fault and that they needn't take sides in their parents' conflict. The author acknowledges that every situation is different and that families have various options for moving forward. Images of young people working through their doubts to achieve a stable home life will reassure readers. While kids are the target audience, teens and even parents will find Scharff's words of wisdom valuable. Characters depicted are diverse in terms of race, ethnicity, and culture, allowing many readers to see themselves in these pages. Optimistic, empathetic, and nuanced--in short, required reading for young people navigating divorce.(Nonfiction. 8-14) Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.