Wanted Toddler's personal assistant : how nannying for the 1% taught me about the myths of equality, motherhood, and upward mobility in America

Stephanie Kiser

Book - 2024

"After a dysfunctional childhood as one of four kids born to teenage parents and raised "white trash" in poor Rhode Island, Stephanie Kiser finds herself a 22-year-old first-generation college grad drowning in student loan debt. To stay afloat, she surrenders her career-track PR job for a position as nanny to New York City's toddler elite. The span of seven years takes Stephanie on a journey from working alongside a stay-at-home mom in her ten-million dollar Park Ave apartment, to a "no discipline" family, to the Kushner's, world-class doctors and finally, to a position with a young couple, both high-powered lawyers, with three small kids. Interwoven with Stephanie's time in the glamourous world of th...e 1% (in the unglamourous role of domestic help) is the narrative of her own upbringing, the contrasts illuminating both the effects of privilege and the grit of self-sufficiency"--

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Subjects
Genres
Biographies
Autobiographies
Published
Naperville, Illinois : Sourcebooks [2024]
Language
English
Main Author
Stephanie Kiser (author)
Item Description
Includes reading group guide and a conversation with the author.
Physical Description
315 pages ; 21 cm
ISBN
9781728298160
  • We're all rich here
  • Toddler keeper
  • Flip-flop
  • The racetrack
  • Church chat
  • Little learning
  • Baby Gala
  • Goldfish, gone
  • Tiny woman
  • Oh, baby, baby
  • Palm Beach
  • Hard choices
  • Lynx
  • The interviewer
  • Charity case
  • Other Stephany
  • No gyms for the help
  • Please clean the underwear
  • Hoax check
  • Rei
  • Thank you, J.K. Rowling
  • John Cena fan
  • The two Americas
  • No more newborns
  • Boss baby (nurse)
  • The most magical place on earth
  • Mindy the Mouse
  • Burnout
  • Covid-19
  • The return
  • Small steaks only
  • Just like Gayle and Oprah (well, almost)
  • Toothless
  • Nanny no more
  • Epilogue.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

From attending lavish galas to meeting over-the-top parental demands, Kiser reveals the perks and pitfalls of nannying for Manhattan's wealthiest families in her wry debut. After graduating from college, Kiser moved to New York City with dreams of becoming "the next Lena Dunham or Greta Gerwig," but the low-paying PR job she landed barely covered her rent. To keep herself afloat, she began nannying for some of the city's most well-off families, who'd discuss summering "out East" during their chauffeured carpools and treat chance encounters with Jay-Z and Beyoncé like no big deal. With a dollop of self-deprecating humor, Kiser juxtaposes her own financially challenged upbringing against the extravagant wealth she encountered during her seven years as a nanny, which taught her "the art of being the poorest person in a wealthy room." After years of 12-hour shifts and glimpses at the corrosive powers of privilege took their toll, however, Kiser's illusions shattered, and she quit nannying ("I had spent my twenties doing jobs I never intended"). While Kiser's insights are familiar, her witty reflections on the value of work-life balance will resonate with readers in the midst of establishing their own careers. It's a solid effort. Agent: Jen Nadol, Unter Agency. (Aug.)

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

A nanny's glimpse into the homes of some of America's wealthiest families. After graduating from college, Kiser set out for New York, seeking to become a writer. Quickly realizing that writing wasn't going to pay the bills, she became a nanny for the ultrawealthy. "I'm waiting outside the school pickup line sandwiched between Drew Barrymore and a cousin of George W. Bush," she writes on the first page. "Steve Martin and his wife are a few spots ahead." Eventually, the shiny newness of their celebrity status wore out, as she discovered that most of New York's uber-wealthy reap their lavish benefits off the backs of hardworking Americans. She also came to understand that they will always have the upper hand due to a rigged financial system. On the other side of that coin, Kiser shows parents struggling to provide for their children (including herself), many of whom are unable to afford new clothes, let alone expensive Versace onesies. After getting burned out from the long hours and demanding nature of her job, the author admits, "The people I worked for had all the markers of success: savings, assets, a beautiful home, children they could easily provide for. I had a few thousand in the bank and a 24/7 work mentality. My life looked so much better than it had growing up, but I wondered now if I had lost more than I had gained. Was Iactually doing well, or had people who had far more than I did just tricked me intobelieving I was?" Despite the constant hurdles she jumped over and the unfairness and hypocrisy she saw every day, humor and wit pervade her page-turning tales, allowing a lightness to peek through her poignant, pertinent employment experiences. A unique examination of persistent wealth inequality in the U.S. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.