Radical tenderness The value of vulnerability in an often unkind world

Gisele Barreto Fetterman

Book - 2025

"As a society, we shy away from public expressions of vulnerability, mistaking it for weakness or a lack of grit. To even talk about crying, much less shed tears publicly, is seen as shameful or cringeworthy. But for Gisele Barreto Fetterman, accessibility advocate and wife of Senator John Fetterman, showing strong emotions has always been her default-at events, during speeches, in her car or even at the grocery store. Friends and family warned Gisele that the world would eat her alive if she didn't toughen up. But over the years Fetterman came to a realization: her emotional tenderness was not her downfall, but her strength-one that could be incorporated into her leadership style to show a different way to create true social and ...cultural change. In Radical Tenderness, Gisele Barreto Fetterman courageously shares her story of power through vulnerability-from her childhood survival years as a Brazilian-American undocumented immigrant, to the prejudice she experienced in corporate and political settings, to her hardships and resilience stepping into her husband's role when he suffered a stroke. Through it all Gisele learned that leading with tenderness-whether at the office, as a boss, or as a human being-can help us face challenges in a healthier, more authentic way, and in turn guides others to do the same. Ultimately, Gisele redefines strength and leadership for our modern times, presenting tools for surviving and thriving in a world designed to wreck the tender-hearted. Because by embracing those emotions publicly-laughter, vulnerability, and, yes, even tears-we not only honor ourselves but open a path toward changing the world"-- Provided by publisher.

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Published
New York : G.P. Putnam's Sons [2025]
Language
English
Main Author
Gisele Barreto Fetterman (author)
Physical Description
221 pages ; 22 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9780593852880
  • Introduction A Return to Tenderness
  • Chapter 1. We Are All Deserving of Tenderness
  • Chapter 2. The World is Going to Eat You Alive
  • Chapter 3. Listen to Your Intuition
  • Chapter 4. The Power of Community
  • Chapter 5. Barriers to Tenderness
  • Chapter 6. Please Call Me Slop
  • Chapter 7. Redefining Strength
  • Chapter 8. Why Tenderness = Leadership
  • Chapter 9. A Tender Future
  • Acknowledgments
  • Reading List
  • Notes
  • Index
  • About the Author
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

Fetterman, founder of the nonprofit Freestore 15104 and wife of Pennsylvania senator John Fetterman, debuts with an intimate account of how vulnerability has shaped her life. After immigrating to the U.S. with her family when she was seven--and becoming undocumented when their tourist visa expired--the author found that a safe and welcoming home and school environment helped her to "freely be who I was, which in my case was a big softy." Contending that gentleness is a strength, she describes how vulnerability gave her the courage to start a nonprofit to address food insecurity in her early 20s; to reach out in 2007 to her future husband, who was then the mayor of Braddock, Pa., after reading an article about his initiatives to revitalize the town; and to cry in interviews as she grappled with the aftermath of her husband's stroke during his Senate campaign (she notes that such public displays of vulnerability can offer others implicit permission to express their own emotions). The author's compassionate and plainspoken tone will easily endear her to readers, and she draws on her husband's public struggles with depression to make valuable points about the need for open public discourse about mental health issues. It's an inspiring testament to the ways emotional honesty can empower and heal. (July)

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