The waterbearers A memoir of mothers and daughters

Sasha Bonét

Book - 2025

"A sharp, tender, sweeping history of three single Black mothers-the author's grandmother, mother, and the author herself-interwoven with the stories of the Black women they saw on the screen and heard on the radio every day. Here is a masterpiece of life writing by a thrilling new voice, a writer who will remake how we think of generations. We begin in a house along a bayou in Texas, a home bought and paid for-and run-by the author's grandmother. Betty Jean spent twenty summers in the swamplands of Louisiana as a cotton tenant farmer before going north to Texas in the Great Migration. It was there that she would raise her eleven children, most by different fathers whom she rarely kept around. "If she tended the land and... the laundry," Bonét writes, "what were the uses of a man?" Mama Connie, one of those eleven, grew up under her mother's controlling hand and struggled to forgive, vowing that her life would be different. But when it came to having children of her own, she was more like Betty Jean than she cared to admit. She made her home just a few blocks away, and received the same nickname as her mother, the "Black Widow." And, like her mother before her, Connie's sweat was the founding salt of her own universe. Today, Sasha Bonét, like each woman before her, wrangles with the pull of her mother's orbit, the austerity and love from which it came. She is the first in her family to look to the past in order to radically reimagine her future, and the future of her daughter. In fostering a community of motherhood, Bonét interrogates all aspects of being a mother-escape and promise, burden, assent, and rebellion-not just for those who came before her, but for those Black women with whom society is acquainted, too: Nina Simone; Oprah Winfrey; Audre Lorde, and Darnella Fraiser, who filmed the murder of George Floyd and mobilized the world"-- Provided by publisher.

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Subjects
Genres
Biographies
Published
New York : Alfred A. Knopf 2025.
Language
English
Main Author
Sasha Bonét (author)
Edition
First edition
Physical Description
xiii, 291 pages : illustrations, genealogical table ; 25 cm
ISBN
9780593536087
  • Note on Tributaries
  • Prelude
  • Category 1. Emerging
  • 2. Elm Grove, Louisiana
  • + tributary #07: Ona Judge
  • 3. Shorelines
  • + tributary #22:
  • 4. AG
  • 5. Blackbirds
  • 6. Third Ward
  • 7. The Daughters
  • Category II. Conforming
  • 9. Thirteen
  • 10. Bobby & Connie
  • + tributary #35:
  • 11. Imitation of Life
  • 12. Pfeiffer Drive
  • 13. Railroads
  • 14. MAD
  • Category III. Awakening
  • 35. Memory of Fire
  • 16. Sofia
  • 17. New York
  • 18. That's Not How That Went
  • 19. Conjure
  • + tributary #88: Camille Billops
  • 20. Viral
  • 22. Here, hold these
  • Acknowledgments
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

In this piercing and poetic debut memoir, cultural critic Bonét traces three generations of Black women in her family. Beginning with her grandmother, Betty Jean Davis--the great-granddaughter of slaves and a tenant farmer in mid-century Louisiana who bore 11 children by nine men--Bonét maps the ensuing legacy of trauma and survival that shaped her own upbringing. Bonét's mother, Connie, had a chaotic childhood in Houston, Tex., characterized by poverty and Betty Jean's flinty emotional distance. "Everything that brought me discomfort as a child was met with narratives about my mother surviving on next to nothing," Bonét recalls. The memories she shares of Connie's scarcity and her confusion about "all the ways a mother and daughter can be so different" echo Connie's own feelings about Betty Jean. Clear-eyed but never cynical, Bonét approaches these cycles of difficulty and disappointment with curiosity, crafting an ode to "all the Black women whose backs have been bent into bridges so that can be raised." The result is a beautiful testament to generational resilience and a forceful reckoning with the legacy of American racism. Agent: Alice Whitwham, Cheney Agency. (Sept.)

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Review by Kirkus Book Review

Honoring Black matriarchs. Cultural critic Bonét makes her book debut with a fervent homage to Black women--grandmothers, mothers, sisters, and cousins--who have instilled an indelible life force in their families. "I was surrounded by reliable women," Bonét writes. "The men were peripheral--inefficient and fickle." Central to her history is her grandmother Betty Jean (b. 1933), the great-granddaughter of enslaved people, who migrated to Houston from Louisiana in 1955 and eventually had 11 children with nine different men. One of those children was Bonét's mother, Connie (b. 1956), who grew up poor and angry, resenting each new baby who arrived to deplete what little the family had. She fled Houston as soon as she could, landing in Manhattan, where she was a stern, uncompromising mother to her own children. Besides recounting the lives of the women in her family, Bonét looks at other Black women: Betty Davis, enslaved seamstress of George and Martha Washington, whose daughter, Ona Judge, escaped and lived in the north as a fugitive; Marian Robinson, Michelle Obama's mother, who moved into the White House to care for her granddaughters; and activist Recy Taylor: Raped by white men in 1944, she contributed--along with Rosa Parks and other women--to forming the Committee for Equal Justice, an inspiration for the Civil Rights Movement. There's Iberia Hampton, who feared for her outspoken son, Fred; he became a Black Panther and was assassinated. There's artist Camille Billops, who rejected motherhood in favor of pursuing her art. "Each of us are the sum of our grandmother's prayers," Bonét writes, "the sum of many moments, of all the care and cruelty we have absorbed." At times tender, furious, selfish, and sacrificial, these were "complicated women," whom Bonét portrays with compassion. A fresh contribution to Black history, rooted in the author's past. Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.

Copyright (c) Kirkus Reviews, used with permission.