The book of women's friendship

Book - 2025

"The first major anthology devoted to women's friendship drawn from fiction, diaries, poetry, and letters. As Marilynne Robinson writes in her 1980 novel, Housekeeping, "Having a sister or friend is like sitting at night in a lighted house." Bringing together work by more than 100 writers, The Book of Women's Friendship explores the rich subject of friendship between women from every angle: its particular intensity and miraculous ease, its tendency to wax and wane, its role not only as a comfort and a privilege, but as vital to our health. Friendship has never been more highly debated, and loneliness more prevalent. Yet women's friendships have repeatedly been neglected or minimized in storytelling, fallen by t...he wayside of male relationships. In the first major anthology dedicated to women's friendship--and the first serious anthology about friendship published in more than three decades--editor Rachel Cooke looks to art to find the words to capture women's platonic love. Compiling selections from novels, poems, diaries, letters, comics, and graphic novels about women's friendship, she places work from a diverse array of artists in conversation across time and place. With excerpts from Jane Austen to Edith Wharton and Virginia Woolf, from Dolly Alderton to Sarah Waters, and from Zadie Smith to Meg Wolitzer, The Book of Women's Friendship celebrates and investigates friendship between women, from first encounters to final farewells, from falling out to making up again. This book takes the shape of a human life, beginning with early efforts at friend-making and -breaking in childhood to chance collisions in adulthood. It contemplates (though not for too long) the flip side of friendship, which is not enmity, but loneliness; celebrates solidarity in all its guises; and ends with loss, the moment of goodbye. Warm, clever, and full of some of the most beautiful writing on friendship ever published, The Book of Women's Friendship is also an act of friendship itself, dedicated to Cooke's best friend, in the end becoming a book full of all the lovely, impossible, unsayable things that one friend might be moved to give to another."--Publishe

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Published
New York, NY : W.W. Norton & Company [2025]
Language
English
Edition
First American edition
Item Description
"Originally published in Great Britain by Virago Press...as The Virago book of friendship."
Physical Description
380 pages ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and author. index.
ISBN
9781324111139
  • Definitions
  • Childhood
  • First encounters
  • Confessions, closeness, contrasting characters
  • Solidarity
  • Lonliness and longing
  • Frenemies and falling out
  • Shifting sands
  • Old friends
  • Goodbyes.
Review by Publisher's Weekly Review

British journalist Cooke (Kitchen Person) delivers a rich anthology of fiction, poetry, diaries, and letters exploring friendships between women. Bringing together works by more than 100 writers, including Emily Dickinson, Virginia Woolf, Elena Ferrante, and Bernardine Evaristo, Cooke explores how these relationships change over the course of one's life. Beginning with childhood, excerpts from L.M. Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables and Enid Blyton's First Term at Malory Towers demonstrate, in Cooke's words, "the agony and the ecstasy of first friendship." Moving to adulthood, more complex themes emerge; a chapter titled "Shifting Sands" addresses friends' diverging paths (one gets married or becomes more successful), while "Frenemies & Falling Out" details fights and betrayals, drawing on excerpts from Charlotte Brontë's Shirley and Nora Ephron's Heartburn. Cooke also explores the heartache of saying goodbye when a decades-long companion dies, such as when Mary McCarthy mourned her friend, the philosopher Hannah Arendt, in a 1976 piece in the New York Review of Books. Throughout, Cooke elucidates poignant truths about the nature of these relationships ("Our friends are mirrors, not mirror images: the more clearly we see them, the more clearly we see ourselves" ). The result is a compassionate meditation on the power of female connection. (Dec.)

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