Why do I keep doing this? Unlearn the habits keeping you stuck and unhappy

Kati Morton

Book - 2025

Many of us have been told since childhood that we need to keep it together, be less dramatic, or toughen up. As we got older, our upsets can be dismissed, labeled as overreations, or even seen as embarrassing. These toxic ideas teach us to stuff our feelings down, ignore our instincts and worry more about how we're perceived than how we actually feel. For licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, she'd spent most of her life battling these feelings...asking herself why she kept repeating the same dynamics despite the knowledge and work she'd been doing. It wasn't until she was on the verge of burnout that she recognized the pattern. Control. Like so many of us, Kati was trapped in an endless cycle of trying to ...control everything around her. The to-do lists, emotions, relationships - the very things we are trained to keep under control - become the things that harm our relationships, our well-being, and ultimately, ourselves. Why Do I Keep Doing This? helps readers understand how control is at the root of our people-pleasing and perfectionist tendencies, and how to finally break the cycle. It's a vital tool that will unpack why we keep doing this to ourselves, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to finally let go in a way that doesn't feel like free-falling. Because there is another way - a way that allows us to feel safe, supported, and whole without needing to control every single detail of our lives. more