But I'm bored! Discover the power of independent play to raise confident, resilient kids

Lizzie Assa

Book - 2026

""But I'm bored." Parents constantly hear these three dreaded words from their kids, and it's no secret why-our kids don't know how to play by themselves anymore and make their own fun. Busy schedules, on-demand screens, and safety concerns have transformed the landscape of play for children today, and parents have been unfairly expected to fill in the gap. We love our kids, but we don't need to play with them 24/7 to be a good parent! Independent play is Lizzie Assa's specialty, and she has become the go-to expert on the topic to the 200K parents who follow her on Instagram and the 20K newsletter subscribers who get her weekly updates and ideas. The key, she argues, is to prioritize independent, unst...ructured play. The result: kids can develop their imagination...and parents can enjoy some precious, much-needed time to themselves! In "But I'm Bored!", Assa shows exactly how to strike this balance. Through high-impact, low-effort strategies, parents learn how to create play pockets in their home, choose open-ended toys that spark imagination, set play boundaries (and stick to them), and enforce the wonders of quiet time. Then, when parents do engage in play time with their kid, it doesn't feel like a job-it strengthens their relationship to their child and helps cultivate an overall happier, healthier environment for the whole family. "But I'm Bored!" isn't about doing everything perfectly. It's about freeing your child to be authentically themselves...so you can be the best version of yourself. Because doesn't every child (and parent) deserve that?"--

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Subjects
Genres
Instructional and educational works
Informational works
Documents d'information
Published
New York : G.P. Putnam's Sons [2026]
Language
English
Main Author
Lizzie Assa (author)
Item Description
"The complete guide for ages 1-8" --Cover.
Physical Description
272 pages : illustration ; 24 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN
9798217043996
  • Introduction: play more, stress less
  • "But I'm bored!"
  • Understanding your unique child
  • How play evolves with development
  • Observe your child to guide their play
  • Understanding the culture of your family
  • Play gives your child purpose
  • Decoding your child's play
  • Barriers to play
  • Managing screen time
  • How to set up your home for independent play
  • The power of play pockets
  • Ready, set, play!
  • Art as play
  • The toy chapter
  • Prepping for a quiet time routine
  • It's quiet time!
  • Supporting your child's growing independence, and yours.
Review by Booklist Review

Assa, founder of the popular website The Workspace for Children and a well-seasoned parenting strategist and mother of three, advocates for "independent play," which allows a child's imagination and confidence to grow. Noting that parents and kids often feel overwhelmed, she begins this lively, richly informative, and realistically helpful guide by defining unstructured play and its many benefits. She explains why children and adults need time alone and how boredom "opens the door for children to begin dreaming, creating, and gaining confidence in their own ability to entertain themselves." To ensure that play time works for everyone, Assa offers a clear and reassuring approach to discerning a child's strengths and challenges at different stages of development. She then provides practical instructions for setting up "play pockets" (even more simply, "play pouches") using "open-ended" materials and toys. Assa's advice regarding screen time is sensible and in keeping with her overall balancing of kids' and parents' needs and prioritizing flexibility. Assa's expert and inspiring suggestions for embracing "the healing power of play" are doable on all kinds of family budgets and schedules.

From Booklist, Copyright (c) American Library Association. Used with permission.