The anger solution : the proven method for achieving calm and developing healthy, long-lasting relationships

The anger solution The proven method for achieving calm and developing healthy, long-lasting relationships

John H. Lee, 1951-

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Subjects
Anger.
Behavior modification.
Regression (Psychology)
Interpersonal relations.
Published
Cambridge, Mass. : Da Capo/Long Life [2009]
Language
English
Main Author
John H. Lee, 1951- (-)
Edition
First Da Capo Press edition
Physical Description
xi, 228 pages : charts, illustrations ; 21 cm
Bibliography
Includes bibliographical references (page 209) and index.
ISBN
9780738212609
  • Introduction
  • Chapter 1. Anger: The Real Story
  • Why Everyone Tries to Avoid Anger
  • Chapter 2. Rage: The Real Culprit
  • How to Tell the Difference between Anger and Rage
  • Soft Rage
  • The Five Things People Do When They Think They Are Expressing Healthy Discontent
  • Four Styles of Rage
  • Enraged or Outraged?
  • Chapter 3. Emotional Regression: The Secret Behind Anger and Rage
  • The Brain and Regression
  • Emotional Regression: A "Present-Person/People Eraser"
  • Three Directions of Relationships and Regression
  • Other Potential Regressors
  • Preconditions for Regression
  • Signs of Regression
  • Chapter 4. Passivity: The Hidden Producer of Rage
  • Two Types of Adult Passivity
  • Three Types of Passivity in Children
  • How to Identify Passivity in Yourself
  • Signs of Problems with Passivity
  • Passivity and Rage
  • Fear of the Word Passivity
  • Living Vicariously
  • Solution and Cures for Passivity
  • Chapter 5. The Detour Method: The Only Tool You Need
  • How TDM Identifies and Works with the Causes of Regression
  • The Six Questions in TDM Process
  • The Detour Method and Boundaries, Limits, Anger, and Rage
  • Why TDM Will Work for You
  • What Happens When the Detour Is Not Taken
  • Chapter 6. Doing What It Takes to Come Out of Anger, Rage, and Regression
  • Five Keys to Bring You Back to the Present Moment
  • Anger Work You Can Do at Home or in the Office
  • Emotional Release and Discharge
  • Other Ways to Discharge and Release
  • Chapter 7. Dropping the Anger and Rage and Becoming Compassionately Assertive
  • "I" Statements
  • The Compassionate Assertive Constitution
  • Completing the Four Compassionate Assertive Statements
  • The 5+5+5 Exercise for Increasing Clarity and Compassionate Assertiveness
  • Chapter 8. Anger and Emotional Intelligence
  • Final Thoughts
  • How to Contact the Author
  • Acknowledgments
  • Further Suggested Reading
  • Index
Review by Library Journal Review

In his 15th book, Lee (The Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded Man) sets forth a syllabus for improving relationships through a step-by-step program to deal with long-buried anger and rage. By differentiating between the two, readers can identify troublesome and defining events from their own histories that unseated their well-being. Perhaps the most insightful portion of the book is Lee's chapter on passivity, which he describes as one of the most toxic and overlooked traits often found in unhealthy relationships. Reading this book would be a pragmatic first step for someone seeking to manage his or her anger and forge deeper connections with others. Although it appeals to men and women, men may particularly find Lee's exploration of cultural implications of masculinity valuable. (c) Copyright 2010. Library Journals LLC, a wholly owned subsidiary of Media Source, Inc. No redistribution permitted.

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